杜 惠平 Hwei-Ping Tu

二大娘 一路好走
呂宗彥 叩上

认识姑姑是我这辈子最大的幸运。我是三姑杜惠萍女士的五弟的继女，我跟杜惠萍女士没有任何血缘关系，可是她带我却比亲侄女还亲，因为姑姑有一颗怜悯的心。2002年姑姑回国探亲，那是我第一次见她，她好亲切，她那么与众不同，她格外的关注我和哥哥，我和哥哥是跟着妈妈改嫁到杜家的孩子。从认识姑姑的那一刻起，我的命运发生了翻天覆地的变化。她时常跟我爸打国际长途，说的最多的就是教我爸如何的来爱我们。我是个无论样貌学业都不出众的孩子，也时常自卑，她教我写电子邮件，经常鼓励我，可以说我的青春期是伴随着姑姑的邮件成长的。这期间她也带我妈妈信主，然后我信主，我成长的每一步她都为我高兴，为我喝彩。后来她带我来加拿大，我知道她为此付出了很多很多，若没有她，我都不知道我会过什么样的生活，我想无论哪一种都会比现在艰难。姑姑呀，我好想你。

杜老师是我们在教会的弟兄姊妹对她老人家的尊称，而巨妈妈是我们夫妇，私下对她满满的爱意，与撒娇般的昵称! 信仰上，象保罗与提摩太关系一样，国海是巨妈妈属灵的儿子，在她的勉励和祷告托起中，完成神学装备，踏上宣教旅程，在她的陪伴下荣神益人。生活中杜老师是我们夫妇的向导，"国海，你一定要照顾好妻子和女儿"的教诲及她的音容笑貌，时常浮现在我的脑海里。杜老师诚挚的爱一直环抱着我们，杜老师（巨妈妈）永远活在我们心中，将来天家永相聚🙏🙏🙏

雖然與姥姥只有幾面之緣，但她那和藹可親與喜樂滿溢的笑容讓我們印象非常深刻。在與她的談話中，我們可以感受到她對神存著堅定的信心和滿懷感恩之心。我們深信她如今已經卸下所有勞苦，安息在那愛她的救主耶穌基督之懷抱裡，並等候與眾聖徒一同復活領受永恆的賞賜。

Although we only met grandma a few times, her gentle, kind, and joy-filled smile left a deep impression on us. In our conversations with her, we could clearly sense her steadfast faith in God and her heart full of gratitude. We believe that she has now laid down all her burdens and is resting in the arms of her beloved Savior and Lord Jesus Christ, awaiting the day when she will rise again with all the saints to receive the eternal reward.

我的母親杜惠平，是對我生命影響最大的人。她從年幼時便多經憂患，但也滿有力量。在我心目中，她經歷最艱難的，是我的弟弟堯年，從小患了肌肉萎縮不治之症，無法活到成年。確診的時候，我的父親深受打擊，我也害怕無助。而我的母親，在心碎的同時，卻勇敢地站穩。她說：「人的一生最幸福的時光是童年，我們讓小三兒有快樂的童年。」

母親是我們全家風雨中的支柱。她教書認真，更是長年竭盡辛勞，照顧不能行動的孩子。她帶著我弟弟去上班，幫助孤單的他交朋友，培養他音樂的才能，發展他電腦的興趣，為他養寵物，並且到處尋醫。使我弟弟從一個憂傷的小男孩，長成溫柔懂事的少年。我小學有位男同學，症狀與我弟弟相似，家人無法照料，送去兒童之家，很快就抑鬱而終。我的弟弟享年十九歲半，醫生們說他是這種病症最好的個例。他臨終時氣息微弱，仍然說：「我最愛媽媽。」

我的母親有豐沛的愛，憐憫的心腸，畢生扶助過無數的人。我很早就出國，距離她甚遠，是我很大的遺憾。但是母親的照拂，依然環繞我和我的孩子們。她永遠是我們信心的雲彩，遇見困難時的榜樣。媽媽，我們非常想念妳。

My mother is the person who has had the greatest impact on my life. She endured much hardship from a young age, yet she remained incredibly strong. In my memory, the most difficult for her was the suffering of my younger brother, Yao Nian, who had the incurable Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and wouldn't live to adulthood. When he was diagnosed, my father was devastated, and I was terrified and helpless. But my mother, while heartbroken, bravely stood firm. She said, "The happiest time in a person's life is childhood, and we will give our little Yao Nian a happy childhood."

My mother was the pillar of strength of our family. She was a dedicated teacher and at the same time, a tireless caregiver for her disabled child for many years. She took my younger brother to work with her, helped him make friends, nurtured his musical talents, fostered his interest in computers, raised pets for him, and sought medical help everywhere. She transformed my younger brother from a sorrowful little boy into a gentle and sensible teenager. A male classmate of mine in elementary school had similar symptoms to my brother; his family couldn't care for him, so he was sent to a children's home, where he was very depressed and soon passed away. My younger brother lived to the age of nineteen and half; doctors said he was the best case-study of the disease. In his dying moments, with his breath weak, he said, "Mom I love you the most."

My mother had abundant love and a compassionate heart, and throughout her life she helped countless people. I went abroad very early, living far away from her, which is a great pity for me. But my mother's care and support still surrounded me and my children. She has always been a witness of faith for us, and a role model when we encounter difficulties. Mom, we miss you so much.

杜老師和巨教授是我們可敬的師長， 也是我們在主內的親密摯友。 當我們在生活中遇到各樣難處的時候， 他們是電話那頭最能與我們共情，並用智慧的言語給我們帶來安慰和激勵的人生導師。杜老師和巨教授：我們想念您們！天家再見！

巨妈妈每次带着笑容迎接我们当我们到他家查经
他总是那么和亲可爱
She is very humble and gentle and helpful person who always help others
Although we didn’t see each other often we still remember her and her family
Our condolences to the families

謝謝鍾盈設立的網站，讓我們分享到巨媽媽的生活點滴。也再次的感受到她生前的開朗與關懷。

我和婆婆生活在一起將近40年，可以說是除了她的子女之外，受惠最深的人。婆婆生前活力充沛、十分克己卻善待家人朋友。從小她就是體育健將，且記憶驚人，課業出眾。年近50多歲才開始學習游泳、網球、開車及頻繁的旅行，所以她身邊的人常常被這股源源不絕的熱情感染。晚年，每當夜𥚃睡不著，她往往一遍遍的背書來安神。現如今，我在她曾經失眠的房中醒來，前事種種不時浮現，感謝和追悔摻雜。希望媽媽在天家可享安息。