Sybil Jacqueline Qasir

To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.

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It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Sybil Jacqueline Qasir, affectionately known as Sybs, Bilo, and Beels, who passed away on January 27th, 2026, at the age of 56. A devoted daughter, beloved sister, committed family therapist, and cherished member of her community, Sybil's life was one of service, laughter, and profound connection with others.
Sybil was a dedicated systemic family therapist, whose career spanned over three decades, and during that time, she helped countless individuals and families navigate some of their most difficult challenges. Her work was not just her profession; it was her calling. Sybil had an extraordinary ability to connect with others, offering counsel, comfort, and guidance that left an indelible mark on the lives she touched. Her proudest accomplishment was the sheer number of lives she impacted, helping individuals find healing, hope, and the strength to rebuild their lives.

A firm believer in the power of honest communication, Sybil often said, “Say what you mean, and mean what you say.” She lived by these words, always speaking with clarity and conviction, and she expected the same from those around her. Her commitment to integrity and her unwavering principles earned her the respect and admiration of everyone who knew her. Those who worked alongside her, whether in her capacity as a social worker, family therapist, mentor, or tutor, often remarked on her ability to make people feel seen and heard, a gift that came from her genuine warmth and understanding.

Outside of her professional life, Sybil was deeply involved in her community. She was an active member of Christchurch Fulham and Luton Christian Fellowship, where she found both spiritual grounding and a sense of family. Her faith was central to her life, and she lived by the values of love, service, and compassion. As a mentor and tutor, Sybil took great joy in helping others grow, both personally and professionally. Her willingness to take risks was evident in many aspects of her life—most notably when, on a whim, she traveled to Paris without a valid passport, trusting that somehow, everything would fall into place. It was this adventurous spirit and ability to embrace the unknown that made Sybil so memorable.
Sybil was a beloved daughter to her Father Sam, whom she is now reunited with and Mother, Salima who survives her and she was a proud sister to three siblings Simon, Sonia & Shaun. Although Sybil did not have children of her own, her deep affection for her family and friends, as well as her endless capacity for nurturing others, made her a mother figure to many. Her loyalty to those she loved was unwavering, and she demonstrated time and time again that family was not just a matter of blood, but of heart.

Sybil's personality was a unique blend of charm, humour, and intellect. She had a gift for making others feel comfortable and at ease, and her smile & laugh were infectious. Whether in a professional setting or at a family gathering, Sybil's presence was always felt. She had an extraordinary ability to engage with people from all walks of life, and she was never afraid to take a stand when it mattered. She was principled, kind, and deeply empathetic, always willing to lend an ear or a helping hand to those in need.
Sybil’s legacy will live on through the many lives she touched, the communities she built, and the lasting impact of her work. Her life was a testament to the power of kindness, integrity, and the importance of helping others. She will be deeply missed by her family, friends, colleagues, and all who were fortunate enough to have known her.

A private funeral service will be held for family and friends. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Keech Hospice, an organisation that cared so compassionately for Sybil in her final days.

Sybil Jacqueline Qasir, rest in peace. Your love and light will always continue to guide us.

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March 21, 2026

I have just read with great sadness your wonderful tribute to Sybil. She was a fantastic colleague and I worked with her from 2016. I first met.Sybil when she came to work with me in the.
clinic at University College Hospital, London. We worked jointly seeing vulnerable children for many years. Sybil was not only a wonderful colleague but an amazing therapist for so many of the children and their families. She was always so interested, helpful and showed such respect for the people she worked with. I offer you my sincerecondolences . She spoke often to me about her family with great fondness.
Thinking of you all
Deborah

Deborah Hodes

February 25, 2026

My dear Sybil, I am so glad we re-connected two years ago with the PCL uni gang. Will cherish the memories from that day forever. You are with the angels now, rest easy my friend. All my love, Sonalxx

Sonal

February 24, 2026

What a pleasure meeting you and your siblings at Chelsea and Westminster Hospital last year by the piano. You loved the hymn Cornerstone and so I will always remember you when I sing and play this hymn. I am grateful and sure that you are resting in Jesus everlasting arms.

Mrs Althea Wray

February 21, 2026

Sybil, you were a dear member of my church community group and friend. We went to the theatre, where your love for life and openness to new things was obvious, as we watched interesting fringe plays. I liked the fact that you were always real and honest. You had a trust and faith in God that was real and I still remember prayers you prayed for me and a word from God which is still relevant in my life. You loved people and had a warm heart, always ready to listen if I was going through a hard time. I loved your politics. We thought alike about Gaza and other things. I loved how you clung onto God even when going through the hardships of your cancer journey. You were so brave. Even in hospital, you were interested in the lives of the medical staff who looked after you.
We got to spend some days together on the French Riviera a few months ago, where you amazed me with how stylish you looked. You enjoyed paddling in the sea up to your waist. I’ll never forget the tea in real cups which we had on the beach at Carnoles, where you again showed your care for and curiosity about people as we chatted to a lovely old man. We loved touring the glorious pink Villa Ephrussi and were intrigued by the life of its owner Beatrice. Best of all was the meal we had in Antibes in that atmospheric bar near the seafront. Music was playing, there was a buzz in the air, and we sipped cocktails while sharing about our love lives. Thank you, Sybil, for sharing those moments with me, and for who you are. I’ll always remember you with love.

Fleur Montanaro

February 20, 2026

Sybil, I cant believe I'm writing this message. It still doesnt feel real. You were such a special person, so authentic and caring. We share such lovely memories, within work and outside of work. My favourite memory of us in the office was when I warmed up my lunch (my mums meat pilau) and you said it reminded you of your mum. That was special. I never did get to bring in the pilau for you.

My favourite memory outside of work was when we went out for our birthday- you wanted to order the Thai curry and requested to see the chef, to see if the food was going to be authentic hahahaha. Then, you were half way through your cocktail and realised it was the wrong one. We laughed until our bellies hurt. I'll miss how unfiltered and hilariously funny you were. Even in your toughest times, you made people smile. You made us feel that everything was going to be ok, and you made time to see us between treatment. Its such an honour to call you a friend.

Rest easy, Sybil. Such a huge loss for those who knew you and the people you've helped in your years. They dont make them like you anymore, Sybil.

Zahra IQBAL

February 18, 2026

The emotional shock of your sudden departure from this world has been over whelming....its taken a while to sink in.

I will always cherish the memories of you from our college days....back in the 80’s:
Sneaking 'pranta' & drinks into the library!! Listening to 80's RnB... your 'night flight' music mix (Kool and the Gang, Atlantic Star, Sade, Imagination... wow the list goes on)
I’ll never forget your 'college uniform’: trendy leather jacket, permed hair, huge round glasses!! You pulled off quite a look!....padded shoulders, if I remember correctly, for the quintessential 'Dallas' look.
You were such an inspiration, full of confidence, always cheerful and friendly. Hanging out in the canteen. You made friends with ease and was so popular.
Thank-you for showing me how to be a better person....you were always one step ahead.
Although, we are heart-broken, we take comfort in knowing that our Lord has called for you.
        'That which is precious to Him, returns to Him'
We thank Him for the time He allowed us to share with you.

You gave me friendship when I has no friends;
You gave me hope when I had none;
You lived life like a saint, marched through life's tribulation like a soldier and you passed on gracefully like a Martyr.
Gods speed to you on your new journey, we are praying for you always.

This is not goodbye, this is good night.
See you soon.
Your friend forever...
M
x

M

February 17, 2026

Sybil and I were devoted tennis fans. When we heard that the Wimbledon final had been pushed to Monday after the rain had stopped play on Sunday, we didn’t hesitate. Centre Court tickets for £40 felt like fate giving us a gift. Of course, we should have left home at five in the morning — everyone knows the Wimbledon queues are legendary — but instead, we took our chances.
And what a chance it was. The queue seemed to stretch on forever. In one of our more mischievous moments, I began limping while Sybil dutifully played the role of my carer. We skipped what must have been a mile and a half of waiting. We were trying so hard to look serious, yet the laughter bubbled just beneath the surface. That was us — a little bit cheeky, a little bit daring, and completely wrapped up in the joy of the moment.
When we finally reached the entrance, we paid our way in and ran, breathless and giddy, to choose our seats. Sitting there on Centre Court felt like we had pulled off the greatest adventure. We laughed more that day than I can properly put into words, half from excitement, half from disbelief at our own audacity. All the while, we prayed none of our colleagues would spot us on the evening news.
Of course, later that night, I turned on the television — and there we were. Caught in our moment of triumph. I can still picture it, and it still makes me smile.
That day wasn’t just about tennis. It was about friendship, about shared secrets and spontaneous decisions, about laughter that leaves your sides aching. It was about you.
I shall miss you dearly, my partner in crime. Thank you for the memories, the mischief, and the joy. x

Jacqui

February 17, 2026

Dear Sybil, words cannot express how much you are missed and the sheer weight of your loss. I miss your warmth, your friendship and that dazzling smile. You were so full of life and brought so much joy to people’s lives.

You were an amazing colleague and a true inspiration to me and so many others – you really loved your job and worked passionately to make a difference in people’s lives.

I remember the many laughs we shared within the office and during our little adventures to theatres/musicals :) I miss the supportive chats and the wisdom you shared with me. I was truly honoured to call you my friend and blessed to have so many fond memories with you. Your beautiful spirit lives on - I know you are in heaven right now, making connections and continuing to help souls in need. I believe this was your calling and why you touched so many lives.

Rest in peace, Sybil. You will live forever in our hearts. Until we meet again my friend xxx

Azadeh Azimi (Azi)

February 15, 2026

It’s such an honour and joy to have known Sybil for just a handful of occasions, and yet even in each of those times, her presence lit up the room and she oozed with love and smiles.

The last time I saw her, she had come along to an art exhibition I was part of, and she loved and bought this painting in greens, turquoise & purple. She said it reminded her. Of a Pakistani suit that her Mum used to wear in her younger years 💚🩵🤍💜
I also now know that greens and turquoise were her favourite colours… no wonder- they symbolise life, praise, renewal, peace, victory…( to name just a few), and this was Sybil down to a tee

Sybil also got this blush pink & gold blossom painting called “rooted, grounded & established in love” and this completely sums up who Sybil is… so rooted in love and everyone who encountered her got to taste this love.

I miss you Sybil, but know that we will celebrate in glory together again 💓✨💖

Ally Courtenay Dunn

February 14, 2026

I can't believe you are no longer with us Sybil. I am so saddened by this, and still in shock. I am honoured to have known you, and to have been your uni flatmate. And I am so glad we re-connected two years ago with the uni gang. All my love always, Sunita xx

Sunita Gopinathan

February 11, 2026

My sexy Sybil, i met you a few years ago, we shared that lovely (falling apart) NHS office where lots of deep conversation, ideas and laughter were shared. You were always a kind and compassionate therapist and colleague, there to support with any professional and personal problem. I will miss our lunch’s together and the gym sessions we did together (not so often, you always found a excuse to stood me up).. I will keep looking around to see your always-packed-with-things car and will relive in my head all the funny anecdotes you either gracefully shared or we lived together. You were truly one of a kind, I am grateful for having met you and you will be so very missed. With love, Marilo

Marilo Barrios

February 10, 2026

Richard and I knew Sybil through our church Christchurch Fulham of which she was a regular attendee and singer in the choir presentations we did at Christmas.

Sybil loved singing and choir/choral presentations and supported some of the performances I sang in with the Thames philharmonic choir.

We prayed with and for Sybil and we all miss her very very much.

She had a tender and gracious spirit and leaves a void in our hearts and lives. Please accept our condolences at this very sad time.

Every blessing to you and your family at this time. Elisabeth and Richard Tootill

Elisabeth Tootill

February 10, 2026

Although I received with heavy heart, the news of Sybil's transition into eternal life, yet I am also filled with a deep sense of gratitude, for having met Sybil whose life radiated warmth, kindness, and faith. She was indeed a caring, social, people‑oriented, God‑loving, family girl—the kind of person in whose presence one would feel lighter, safer, and gentler. Although I wasn't as close to her as many others, but the little time or interaction I had with, I felt she had a unique gift of noticing people, because you can't be invisible around her. Whether through a smile, a thoughtful message, or a simple act of welcome, hospitality and kindness, she always made me and my family feel seen and valued. She carried a tenderness that was never weak. Her strength was rooted in her faith, and in her love for God, and in her deep devotion to her family. Her joy lived in connection.
She made time even for people like me and my family, whom she knew through her father's contacts. It was always heartening to see her caring for her Mum with her whole heart. It is evident that to her family, she was a treasure, a daughter who honoured her parents, a sister who loved compassionately, a relative whose presence brought unity, comfort, and hope, and to her family friends like me, she was a safe place, someone who listened without judgment, who celebrated our joys and was willing to share our burdens. She lived her life anchored in God. Her faith was not loud or boastful—it was steady, gentle, and sincere.
In her words, in her choices, and in her kindness, she reflected the light of the One she loved.

Although her time with us may feel far too short, the impact of her life will remain immeasurable. She leaves behind a legacy of compassion, generosity, and love—a legacy that will continue in the lives she touched, the hearts she warmed, and the memories she blessed us with. We grieve because we loved deeply, but we take comfort because we know she rests in peace, held in God’s eternal care, free from pain, embraced by divine love.
May her memory be a blessing. May her example be an inspiration. And may God grant her family strength, comfort, and serenity in the days ahead. She will be loved forever.

David Jonathan

February 10, 2026

I wasn't lucky enough to know Sybil for very long, but in the short time I had with her as a team-mate in the Fostering, Adoption and Kinship Care Team, what sticks with me most is the unhurried, thoughtful silence that followed (usually anxious) questions about her clinical view on a case, and preceded the wisdoms, creativity, suggestions and challenges she gave us. She seemed to me able to make it clear in those silences that she was with us, and giving her full presence and thinking to an answer, in such a way that I felt helped mostly before she had even spoken. Sybil joined our team in April last year and, feeling happy to take up a role in which she could apply the skills, knowledge and experience of both her professional identities, launched herself into helping the families we see, despite being unwell. I feel a deep sadness, for our team, for its families, and for Sybil that she was not able to work in that particular role for longer. But I am grateful for having known her nevertheless.

Dexter Benjamin

February 9, 2026

I am still in huge amounts of shock that Sybil is no longer with us. I love Sybil with all my heart and always will do. Her passing has left a deep and aching absence in the lives of all who knew and loved her. And I feel sad for me, her family and friends, but also for the world, for what it has lost is immense.

Sybil was someone who always stood up for those who felt unheard, unseen, or unsure of their rights. She fought tirelessly for what was ethical and just, even when doing so came at personal or professional cost. Integrity and compassion was not something she performed, it was who she was.

Sybil was an exceptionally gifted therapist. I had the immense privilege of working alongside her at South Camden Community CAMHS, where we met in 2008 and worked together for eleven years. From the very first day we met Sybil became my friend. We brought out the best in one another, and I learnt an enormous amount working alongside her. She was highly skilled, endlessly compassionate, resilient, and full of energy.

Whenever Sybil asked me to join her in clinical work or to work with her somehow, no matter how full my caseload, I always said yes.

We loved doing joint family work and often took on families who were viewed as “too complex,” non-compliant, or who others felt unable to engage. When we worked together, magic happened. We shared a deep commitment to humanising those who had been marginalised, a lived understanding of not being seen, and a belief in the transformative power of creativity, humour, and genuine connection.

Outside of work, Sybil was a constant and cherished presence in my life. She showed up, always, with love, care, laughter, and wise advice: at my baby showers, for my children’s birthdays, my older sister’s 50th, and countless evenings out, dancing, or watching some random play Sybil had discovered (she once took me to see a strange musical about Camila Batmanghelidjh and Kids Company!)

Sybil was one of the most generous, kind-hearted, wise, and genuinely funny people I have ever known. She was not only a colleague and a friend, she was my sister. I have yet to meet anyone who embraced others with such openness, tenderness, and transparency, or who held such deep and abiding fondness for people in all walks of life and in all their complexity.

Sybil was consistently, fully present, curious, and warm. Even when at her lowest. Even when she was in huge amounts of pain.

When I think of Sybil I am always reminded of a quote from the film Chocolat. In his Easter sermon, Father Père Henri says:
“I don’t want to talk about His divinity. I’d rather talk about His humanity… I think that we can’t go around measuring our goodness by what we don’t do… I think we’ve got to measure goodness by what we embrace, what we create, and who we include.”
This was Sybil. Loving arms that embraced everyone.

In the final days of her life, Sybil’s siblings created a WhatsApp group that brought together her friends from every part of her world. Each day, twenty, thirty, sometimes forty messages poured in, photos, videos, music, memories, prayers, and words of love and appreciation. There were groups of ‘prayer warriors’, groups of people fasting together and groups of people supporting each other, through sharing tender, special and fond memories; groups of people coming together, whose only connection at times, was their love for Sybil.

There was love in abundance. For Sybil and for all we knew and loved her.

Those messages continue even now. The love that surrounds Sybil to this day has no limits and no end.

I get much comfort from this. And sometimes I still feel Sybil around me – I think because of her wonderful family and friends who mirror her generous and large heart.

Sybil was filled to the brim with goodness. Goodness was her driver and her legacy. Wherever she has been, her goodness has taken root and continues to grow. And wherever she is now, her light remains; radiating through the lives she touched and the love she leaves behind.

Taiwo Afuape

February 9, 2026

My dear friend Sybil! I miss you but I am beyond grateful for the times we shared, in sickness and in health. We'll meet again! ❤️

Katrin STERLAND

February 9, 2026

Sybil, some of my happiest memories at work began with sitting next to you. You were the laughter in my long days, the deep chats, the after work wine catch-ups that made everything feel lighter. Our bond didn’t stay in the office… you became such a dear friend, someone whose warmth, honesty and beautiful madness made life easier to love.
Some of my favourite wedding photos were captured by you (our unpaid photographer!), and I’ll always treasure the Bhangra rehearsals and all the moments you made unforgettable.
Thank you for blessing my life with your spirit. I love you and I miss you… always 🤍

Jass Chawla

February 9, 2026

….You are not gone from me. You live on in my heart, in my memories, and in the rare and beautiful connection we shared. What we had does not disappear or fade, it remains alive, present, and deeply felt.

Over more than twenty years since we met, we walked through so much together, the darkest moments and the cheekiest ones too. We knew each other’s secrets, desires, and dreams. You always had time for me. We even had our own coded language, one only we could understand. So many of our plans will now remain unfulfilled … not in this life, at least.

I will never forget us climbing Mount Sinai to watch the sunset, seeking something higher and deeper, a connection with the Absolute. Do you remember how we stopped along the way, quietly drifting away from the other two friends because we wanted silence….to listen, to look, to breathe in the world around us? A great bird hovered nearby, wings spread wide, as if it knew we were watching, as if it was aware of our awe. That moment lives vividly in me still.

Monika Krupa-Flasinska

February 8, 2026

I have seen you like a robin,
a small fierce spark in flight.
Your laughter carried a light that asked for no permission,
slipping into people’s hearts the way dawn slips into the sky:
quietly, asking nothing in return.
You left quietly and Now that silence has taken your place,
it weighs like a stone.
Those who crossed your path still look for you
in the quiet corners of a room,
in a sudden rush of joy,
in the flutter of something tiny and bright
that stubbornly refuses to fade.

I keep you in that secret place
where time cannot reach,
and you remain untouched,
still whole....still light.
Bye Tesò

Paolo

February 8, 2026

Going to miss all those nights when you would come and see me DJing in clubs and bars all over London, where we would dance and party, share jokes and laughs and we made so many memories…you was my biggest supporter and you always was right by my side, my biggest wow moments was always when I would overhear you say “my brother is playing tonight”

Shaun Qasir

February 8, 2026

I miss laughing with you...just one look from you and off we went into fits of giggles!

Sonia (Sybils sister)

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