Steven Paul Scillitani
Obituary
Steven Paul Scillitani, 68, of Port Ludlow, Washington, passed away peacefully on September 6, 2026 from complications of Lewy Body Dementia. He was surrounded by family.
Steve was born in Newark, New Jersey. He grew up in Sayreville, New Jersey. He attended Clarion University, Clarion, Pennsylvania, now known as PennWest Clarion. He was a student/athlete who was a high achiever in the classroom as well as on the football field. Steve was captain of his team in his senior year and was named to the All-American Associated Press List. He graduated in 1981 with a bachelor’s degree in Geoscience. Years later, in 1999, he was inducted into the Clarion University Sports Hall of Fame. Then in 2019, in celebration of the 150th Anniversary of the Pennsylvania State Athletic Conference (PSAC), Steve was honored by being named as one of 150 contributors to the game of football since the beginning of the PSAC. There are 17 Universities that make up the PSAC. Clarion selected 11 individuals.
Steve’s work career began with British Petroleum where he worked for 8 years. He then joined Schlumberger in 1992 where he had a career that spanned 28 years. He loved his job. His job postings moved his family to different locations within the U.S. and around the world. He travelled for work to many, many more including South America, China, the Middle East, Australia, the United Kingdom, Russia, Indonesia, and Malaysia. One of the things Steve enjoyed the most was when he got to mentor new hires. He took his role very seriously when it came to guiding and advising these individuals. Seeing them do well brought him great joy.
In Steve’s free time he loved spending time with his family and golfing. He was always an active participant in his children’s activities when they were younger. He was an assistant coach at times. He tried to make every game or swim meet even though his schedule was always busy. He was a caring dad and a loving husband.
Steve is survived by his wife Cynthia (Cindy), and his four children Steven L Scillitani, Alexander W Scillitani (Mari Iwamoto), Vincent B Scillitani (Hillary Larsen) and Isabella H Scillitani (Andre Weeks); sisters Victoria Fresta, Lynda Scillitani; stepmother Sixta Scillitani; stepfather John Bradway; sister-in-law Jill Scillitani; nephews Gregory Scillitani, Nickolas Scillitani (Sia), Dominic Scillitani (Sarka); niece Alysia Fresta. Steve has two grandchildren, Shota and Brynn. He has cousins, great nieces and nephews who survive him as well. He is preceded in death by his parents, Helene Bradway and Gregory P. Scillitani and brother Gregory M. Scillitani.
There are people all over the world who will remember Steve. He was caring, hardworking, dedicated, trustworthy. He was a wonderful man. He put his all into the things and people he cared about. He will be forever loved and missed by his family and friends.
There was a private memorial for immediate family that was held on September 22, 2026.
Memorial donations may be made to either of these organizations:
Lewy Body Dementia Association - lbda.org
Good Sport - support.goodsports.org
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I met Steve and Cindy in college our freshman year, Steve and I lived on the same dorm floor and Cindy lived at the dorm beside ours. Then we became roommates and frat brothers the remainder of our time at Clarion. Life takes us in many places over the years, marriage, kids, work, which makes it challenging to keep the bonds that you had in college. Fast forward 40 years, get together and it’s just like yesterday. That’s the way it was with Steve, we just picked up where we left off whether it was on the phone or Homecoming. I have so many great memories of Steve, if I wrote them all I would have to list chapters in a book! RIP my friend.
When we brought the Scillitani family to Jakarta, we were taking a business risk. We had had family failures before. Four kids in JIS! And of course they did not have class room near our houses so one of them had to attend a second campus clear across busy Jakarta for a year.
Steve fit right in, and helped the team from the beginning, bringing a skillset we definitely needed. I've said more than once, he was a person who makes the whole team better. He's one of the best guys I've ever worked with in fact.
He said I helped him learn marketing; but I learned more from him.
Memories...
Schlepping dual-headed Sun workstations all over Asia. Through Tokyo Station up and down stairs. Into Perth. And of course China. Heat or cold. Every type of transportation you can imagine.
The time we were all set to give a presentation to CNOOC and someone switched off the power...he scrambled to get everything set up again, while I took the long way in my intro presentation.
Putting the whole show on the road in Bangkok needing a couple of flights, and how many taxis..?
And of course the ill-fated night walking with the family from our house to the school - to evacuate the country - with our one bag each - and both of us with baseball bats in hand, not knowing what we might come across.
Thinking of and praying for you Cindy and the family in this time of loss.
I would like to present my condolences to Cindy and all their children and extend my deepest sympathy for their loss.
Emilio Echeverri
He was All-American on the football field — captain, AP list, Hall of Fame. But the field was never the measure of the man. He was All-American in everything. He mentored careers across continents. He protected families during foreign protests. He coached kids who weren't his own. He showed up when nobody else came. And he never once talked about himself.
I called him Scilli. I was lucky enough to call him my friend for over forty years.
We are not done saying your name, brother.
— Alfred Pizzurro
Steve was my very first boss at Schlumberger, when I was sent to the US by a client in 1993. From day one, Steve was not just my manager, but also a mentor and a friend. I visited the Scillitanis in Petaluma, met Cindy and the kids, and felt genuinely welcomed, even though I was thousands of miles away from home.
In 1995, I reached out to Steve, and he offered me a job back in California. The speed and efficiency with which everything came together would have been unimaginable without him. Irina joined me later that year in Houston, and knowing the Scillitanis made our first years here so much easier.
Steve was deeply dedicated to his family, his work, and the teams he worked with. So much of who I became professionally, and even personally, came from what I learned from Steve.
Without Steve, we might never have come to the US, and our lives could have turned out very differently. We are still in Houston, more than 30 years later, and we owe so much of the life we have built here to meeting Steve in 1993 and to the person he was: kind, smart, sensitive, visionary, energetic, and pragmatic.
I regret that we didn’t stay in closer touch over the years. We lived in different places and were busy with our work and lives, but I thought of Steve often. We will always remember Steve with deep affection and gratitude for everything he did for us and for the lasting impact he had on our lives.
I’ve known Steve since 1997, when we were both assigned in Jakarta with Schlumberger. I remember Steve as both strong technically and particularly business savvy. At the office, I could always count on Steve’s advice and support whenever needed. Off work, Steve was a keen and competitive golfer; I have fond memories of many rounds we played together along with the rest of the Schlumberger crowd at some amazing courses around Jakarta. Later, we were both assigned in Houston at the same time, in different roles, but working again on the same projects.
It was decades later, in retirement, living in the Pacific Northwest, that my wife Tracey and I really got to know Steve and Cindy. We would regularly get together socially, re-living all the great times we spent in Schlumberger (and some tough times too). Steve & Cindy and Tracey and I even vacationed together in Hawaii a few years back.
In his later years, Steve’s dry sense of humor manifested itself more often. One memorable story was one evening when Steve and Cindy were at our home for a dinner. On our kitchen counter, Cindy just happened to notice the latest monthly flyer from one of her favorite women’s fashion stores, and looking puzzled, she commented that the store doesn’t send that flyer to her anymore. Without missing a beat, Steve chimed in “that’s right, I pay them NOT to send it to you!”.
I’m going to miss Steve. A dedicated Schlumberger manager and mentor, a golf partner, and lifelong friend.
Mark Winslet & Tracey Stubbs, The Woodlands, Texas
He was much more than a boss. He was kind, supportive, understanding, and encouraging, with a wonderful ability to bring out the best in people. I remember when a colleague and I, feeling a bit competitive, asked Steve which of us was better. Rather than choosing one over the other, he found a way to recognize and compliment each of our strengths. That was Steve. He knew how to build people up without putting anyone down.
I also fondly remember his warmth and hospitality, particularly a memorable deep-fried turkey dinner at his home. Steve made people feel valued, not just as employees, but as people.
Steve also helped me get my first international assignment, opening doors that shaped the course of my career. His influence stayed with me long after we worked together. Throughout my career, when faced with difficult decisions, I often found myself asking, “What would Steve advise me to do?” And as I moved into leadership roles myself, I consciously tried to follow his example, encouraging others, recognizing their strengths, and helping them succeed.
Both personally and professionally, I owe Steve a great deal. I was incredibly fortunate to have him as my first boss, mentor, and role model. Thank you, Steve, for believing in me, opening doors, and showing me what good leadership looks like. Your influence will always be with me, and I will remember you with deep gratitude, respect, and affection.
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