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Robert N. Renner Jr.

AugAugust 2nd, 1945 MayMay 17th, 2026
Desert Hot Springs, CA
Robert N. Renner Jr.

To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.

Obituary

Robert Nelson Renner, Jr. — known as Robbie in Weatherford, Texas, and later as Bob in the Virgin Islands and California — died on May 17, 2026, of Atherosclerotic Cardiovascular Disease. He was 80.

Bob was only five when he lost his father, an Air Force major, in a mid-air collision — and from that early age he carried a sense of responsibility that stayed with him his whole life. When his family moved to St. Thomas in 1956, he discovered a lifelong love of photography, eventually rising to manager of a camera shop on Main Street. He married his first wife, Judith, in 1966, and their son, Robert Nelson Renner III, was born in 1974 — a son whose childhood Bob photographed as devotedly as he had photographed the islands he loved.

After serving in the U.S. Army, Bob returned to St. Thomas, where hard years — including a year in prison — cost him his marriage but never his bond with his son. For nearly twenty years he worked the ferries between St. Thomas, St. John, and the British Virgin Islands, staying close to his boy all the while. In 1991, facing prison again, he chose a different path, entering a rehabilitation program in Desert Hot Springs, California, that changed the course of his life. He went on to earn a bachelor's degree and, in 1999, a master's in social work, spending the next 18 years as a Social Services Practitioner finding homes for children in San Bernardino County. That same year he married Penny Lane, and the two traveled the world together.  Even as he endured painful losses — Brother Tim, Mother Paula, Wife Penny, Stepson Duke, Aunt Stella — his devotion to the "Twelve Steps" and the Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous communities he was a part of never wavered; he rarely missed a meeting and became a mentor and model of recovery to many. In his final years, Bob found deep joy in the birth of his grandson, Julian, and in a last visit to the Virgin Islands, the place he always considered home. 

He is survived by his family, including Peggy Renner, Robert Nelson, Marilyn Reynolds, Robert N. Renner III, Caitlin Renner, Julian Renner, Susie Renner, Ian Renner, Zoe Renner, Muffie Anne Manzella, Scarlett Olivia Drews, Addison Lee Drews, Pamela Smith, Maz Reeder, Tom Nelson, Pam Nelson, Chance Nelson, Annika Nelson, Chet Nelson, Leslie Nelson, Ava Nelson, and Grace Nelson.

In lieu of gifts or flowers, the family asks that donations be made to Ranch Recovery Centers. Additional information can be found on the Donate tab above. The family is also deeply grateful to Bob's dear friends Jerry, Bob and Betty for their invaluable care.

Timeline

1945
August 2nd
Robert N. Renner Jr. is born.
San Antonio, TX
1951
April
Bob's father, a Major Robert Renner Sr. of the United States Air Force, dies in a tragic mid-air collision during a training mission.
Perkins, OK
1956
August
Bob and his mother Paula, along with sister Peggy and brother Tim move to St. Thomas, United States Virgin Islands.
St. Thomas U.S.V.I
1963
June
Bob graduates from Colegio Episcopal San Justo as valedictorian of his class.
Trujillo Alto, Puerto Rico
1966
January 15th
Bob marries Judith Lucille Soto.
St. Thomas U.S.V.I.
1968
March 22nd
Bob is called to duty by the United States Army.
Fort Still, OK
1972
March 22nd
Bob is honorably discharged from service.
St. Thomas, U.S.V.I.
1974
July 7th
Bob and Judy have a son, Robert N. Renner III.
San Juan, PR
1991
June 21st
Bob enters treatment at the Ranch.
Desert Hot Springs, CA
1997
June
Bob graduates with honors from California State University, San Bernardino with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology.
San Bernardino, CA
1998
Bob's brother Tim succumbs to cancer.
Piedmont, CA
1999
June
Bob graduates with honors from California State University, San Bernardino with a Master of Social Work.
San Bernardino, CA
1999
August 29th
Bob marries Penny Lane.
South Lake Tahoe, CA
2008
December 24th
Bob's wife Penny passes away on Christmas Eve.
Desert Hot Springs, CA
2019
November
Bob says "good bye" to his beloved Peekaboo.
Desert Hot Springs, CA
2020
April 11th
Bob adopts a dog and names him Bing Wah.
Desert Hot Springs, CA
2023
May
Bob visits the Virgin Islands for the last time.
St. John, U.S.V.I.
2025
August 5th
Bob celebrates his 80th birthday
Palm Desert, CA

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August 9, 2026
Uncle Robert approached all things in life with humor, acceptance and resolve -- setting a great example for us to live by. He will be missed.
Tom Nelson
August 6, 2026
So many years, so many memories...Such fun, such sadness. The circle is now complete. The world has one less smile.
Liza James Smith
August 2, 2026
Bob was in my life since I was 19 years of age. I am now 70. Bob was a true friend. I love him. And I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers until the day I die. My deepest condolences to the family. He’s going to rest and may he rest in peace in the arms of the Lord until we meet again blessings to the family condolences to the Renner family from the Georges family. God bless.
Denise M Georges
August 1, 2026
A great man and brother on the path. Rest in peace trusted servant. Well done.
Michelle Conlin
August 1, 2026
I was 16 years sober and not as grateful and as happy about it as I should have been. I was full of self centered fear, worried about my bills, my business, my this, my that, etc. I thought I'd go to a noon meeting in Desert Hot Springs and try to get out of self and possibly help someone else. I looked across the room and there was an elderly gentleman with a dog, a leg brace and a walking stick that had the words "Never Had it So Good" carved on the side of it and a big smile on his face. Caught my attention. After I shared, he shared and we instantly knew that we met another Fellowship of the Spirit Brother. We hung out in the parking lot for about an hour. Talking about who we were, where we came from and the magical, wondrous grace and love of this strange power that we discovered on our journeys. Just spending an hour with Bob I realized the foolishness of my selfish attitude, admitted that and my spirit was lifted up and I was back in the realization of how blessed I/we were to have been given such an amazing gift. That's what bob was like. No matter what he had going on, physically, mentally, emotionally or otherwise. He lived in the conscious awareness of who he was and the gift of a renewed, recreated life he had been given and it rubbed off. He was a very bright light. I have no idea how many he helped? His phone rang non stop. What ever the problem you were having, Bob had a way of helping you flip the coin over, consider a different perspective, and afterwards all you wanted to do was go make amends and try to help someone else. he'd flip the script on you, so to peak. Lol. To top it off, he'd and up thank you for helping him? Thanking others for their helping him be useful, do and be better? He was something else. I had the honor of getting into a personal growth workshop with Bob. Where we were peers working on our stuff together. He was/is a great counselor, mentor, friend, brother, and more. The last time I spoke with him he was coming through recovering from his hip replacements. We were talking about what we might do next? I had been out of town the last couple of months and when I got back I tried to call you and your phone was disconnected and I intuitively knew. You moved on to the next Journey Brother. The 1st selfish thing that comes to mind is, "we weren't done yet, we need more time, have more to do etc." But, the awake man in me knows, as you would say, "it's not our life anymore, you never know what's next, stay ready, be clear, stay humble and whatever way it is, is exactly the way it's supposed to be." I'll physically miss you being here bro. Enjoy the ongoing journey. I'll continue practicing. Until then... Thank you for everything. My condolences to the family, friends and loved ones. I didn't get to meet all of you. However, we shared a lot with each other, so I feel I do. May the fact that Bob was an amazing human being who loved and helped a lot of people bring you some joy and peace during this time and as you think on him, always. Love & Light. LT
Laurence Taylor
July 31, 2026
In Loving Memory to our dear neighbor.
We cannot have the old days back, our laughs, our chats, stories you shared of earlier years.
But secret tears and loving thoughts will be with me forever.
Wonderful memories woven in gold, this picture, I tenderly hold. Deep in my heart a memory is kept. To love, to cherish, and never forget.
I miss our Wednesdays at 3:00 for massage and our laughs.
Betty Holmes
July 31, 2026
I had the pleasure working with Bob in the adoption unit. He was a very kind and helpful person. He always had funny stories to tell. I will always remember him with fond memories. My condolences to the family.
Debra Walker
July 29, 2026
I had the privilege of having Bob live with me for a year while he was recovering from his two hip replacements! He was a kind and generous friend and I learned so much from him,and hope I can pass some of his wisdom and passion for life to others! I miss him and am glad that God saw fit to let me be a part of his life! He will be missed!
Jerry Glass
July 29, 2026
I worked with Bob at Children and Family Services where he found his niche in adoptions. Bob was always quick to offer support and encouragement or a funny story and always kept a desk drawer stocked with fancy chocolates of all kinds (perhaps a survival tactic in an office filled with women!) A bright spot has gone from the world. My condolences to family - he spoke often and lovingly about you all through all the years I knew him. RIP, Bob.
Terrianne Palmer
July 29, 2026
I worked with Bob in Adoptions. He was in the Yucca Valley office, and I was stationed in the Rancho Cucamonga office, but worked all over the county assisting adoption workers. I adored Bob. He was the kindest, sweetest, funniest, most lovable man and I truly enjoyed working with him. The world is a lot dimmer place without Bob, but I know wherever he is, he’s making the best of it and has made several new friends. My most sincere condolences to your family,
Suzy Marcy
July 28, 2026
A wonderful guy, fond memories of his life on St. John. He will be truly missed by all. RIP bro. - Trinidad Charlie
Charles Deyalsingh
July 28, 2026
We all loved him very much.
Addison Drews
July 28, 2026
I met Bob and Penny at the Palm Springs dog park. I had spent a winter in St Thomas working at Bluebeards Castle Hotel so we talked a lot. RIP Bob. Fond memories of them.
Mark Bachelder
July 28, 2026
This is truly heart breaking. I hope that you and your family accept my sincere condolences. I pray that the family will find a deep peace very soon.
Leslie James
July 28, 2026
He was always very kind to my family, was fascinating to talk to, and was supremely dedicated to helping others through his rehab programs. In all the ways that I knew him, he was a very good man. May God bless you and your family.
Jeffrey W. Shields
July 28, 2026
It strikes me that he has been gone now two months but it's been over five months since we had lunch together and promised to do another with other friends soon. We never made the arrangements. Bob and I worked together at the Department of Children's Services over 15 years We were both adoption workers. We spent a lot of time together and so grew very close. This photo was taken up in Joshua Tree with Debra Walker, our first clerk. Bob had recovered from his hip surgery. He was not walking with a cane and drove up in his spiffy new car. He was out of the pain which he had suffered so much from before his two hip replacement surgeries. I think he probably had less than 1/2 a year walking without a cane. He looked so good. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mary Bushong

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Other family members
Robert Nelson
Brother-in-law
Ian Renner
Nephew
Susie Renner
Sister-in-law
Zoe Renner
Niece
Mary 
Harry Renner
Marguerite Uber 
Ralph Hess
Robert N. Renner
Paula Irene Hess
Judith Soto
Penny Lane
Peggy Renner
Timothy Renner
Robert N. Renner III
Children
Julian Renner
Peggy Renner
Timothy Renner
Judith Soto
Penny Lane
Robert N. Renner III
Julian Renner
Robert Renner Jr.

Service


The family plans to host an event in celebration of Bob's life at Caliente Springs Resort in Desert Hot Springs, where Bob lived for many years. 
A Celebration of the life of Robert N Renner JR
Location
70200 Dillon Rd, Desert Hot Springs, CA 92241 (Tentative)
Date/time
January 16, 2027
Time (TBD) 
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www.ranchrecovery.org/donate

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