

A life that touches others, lasts forever.
Patrick was adored as a wonderful, devoted husband and father, the loving heartbeat of our family, a kind soul, a generous spirit. He filled our home with fun and laughter, he surrounded us with love and showed it in a thousand quiet ways.
Patrick was also a very private person. He didn’t share his feelings easily. He struggled with thoughts and emotions that he didn’t fully understand, but believed he was stronger than his depression, stronger than his illness. His love for his family was beyond measure so we are broken trying to understand how his darkness could be stronger than his love, how leaving us was the only solution.
While our family is taking time with this sudden change to our lives, we hope that you will keep Patrick gently in your hearts and remember him fondly as the loving, caring and selfless person that we knew him always to be. We ask kindly that you share your favourite memories and stories of Patrick so that we may add them to our special moments.
With love and gratitude,
Michelle, Mikayla, Brandon and Nicky.
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Sending you all my deepest condolences. No words can ease what you’re feeling, but I hope that knowing how loved and respected Pat was brings some comfort in the days ahead.
My memories of Pat are of a man with grace, calm gentleness and an unmatched pride in his family.
When I first met Pat, I remember being in awe of the love and connection he so openly showed to you, Michelle.
He took a genuine interest in everyone and carried himself with the warmth and sincerity of a true gentleman.
May your memories of Pat keep him alive in your hearts. Speak of him often, share his stories, and hold onto the love that will always remain.
All my love today and always x
If you heard Patrick and I speaking French, it was never about you. Promise. We were often whingeing, but never malicious. Like clockwork, every term started with him telling me about his latest home improvements. Painting, landscaping, you name it. He loved working on his house.
He also loved travel, and planning trips for his family, like the recent one to New Zealand. He and Ken had many conversations about the best spots to see. These trips away were the only reason he would forego his usual DIY-focussed holidays.
He loved his heritage and talking about his life in New Caledonia. His face would light up speaking French or talking about his country of origin. What I found remarkable was that he left when he was very young but spoke flawless French. He worked hard to maintain this language and connection.
Many of you have described him as a man of few words. When he spoke, you knew it was important. He was thoughtful and would follow up a conversation with an email or a link to provide further information.
Patrick had a sharp intelligence and a cutting understanding of life, global politics and culture, and could speak about art, film and science with authority and curiosity. He was sure of himself but open to the experiences of others.
He was such a gentle, unassuming man who was generous with his time and did his best for his students. He genuinely cared about them. His senior Physics students, especially, appreciated his caring and the effort he put into their learning.
Again, we weren’t talking about you. But I’d like to finish up with a cautionary tale for all of you who speak other languages.
Many years ago, Patrick and I were on a bus accompanying a group to sport, tennis if I remember correctly. We were in the front seat talking about American politics (in French) and how concerned we were about the possibility of Trump winning that first election. The bus driver, right in front of us, piped up IN FRENCH, saying she thought Trump would be a good president. I’ll never forget the open-mouthed, shocked expression he and I shared. With his usual grace, Patrick engaged her respectfully and found common ground. Always the gentleman.
Pat often spoke with great love about you, Michelle, and the children. He cherished his travels with you and was so proud of Nicky’s website. We often looked at Nicky’s latest uploads together and shared a laugh. Please keep creating, Nicky — your Dad would have loved that.
I want you to know how deeply Pat was valued at Siena. He was a true gentleman: kind, generous with his time, and always willing to help. Exceptionally intelligent, with a remarkable knowledge of science and physics, he was our much‑respected “physics specialist.”
Pat treated everyone with equal kindness and respect, and his students absolutely adored him. He gave freely of his time to support them, and senior students felt incredibly lucky to have him as their teacher.
He is profoundly missed. The staff room feels different without him, and his absence is felt every day.
My heart goes out to you all. Please know that Pat’s impact here was lasting, and he will be remembered with deep affection for a very, very long time.
Please accept my deepest condolences in the loss of your much loved husband and father. It was an honour to have known Pat for the last 8 years since I started at Siena. We struck up a good rapport from the outset, given our mutual interest in all matters French, my wife also being French born and with her brother, also named Patrick still residing in France.
Pat always had time for a good conversation, love and pride in his family was always so evident. We had a habit of greeting each other daily with our customary "Bonjour Patrick" and "Bonjour Jean". I will miss Pat very much, those regular catch-ups in the staff lunch room or out in the school yard.
Pat had such a wealth of knowledge and we frequently compared notes on all our favourite travel destinations, I appreciated his love for my country of origin New Zealand, and for providing me with so much information on all the best parts of Tasmania to visit, prior to my wife and I travelling there for our first visit 3 years ago.
It was an absolute pleasure and great privilege to have spent time conversing with Pat, I am so profoundly sorry for your loss.
I think about the years to come, and that he won't be there to see them - and neither will he see the people we'll become. We always talked about going to Europe one day. We wanted to see the cathedrals and castles that filled the history books we talked about so often. We wanted to visit Istanbul and stand on the ruins of ancient walls together.
He won't be there for these moments and my heart breaks for him. I wish he knew how much he was loved; I don't think he understood what a void he would leave behind. Our family will spend a lifetime trying to understand why. I just hope, wherever he might be, that he's found some peace. I like to think he's somewhere quiet and green now, by the sea. I like to think I might see him again someday, somehow. I'd have liked to go fishing with him again.
I love you, Dad, and I will miss you as long as I live.
I remember Pat to be a true gentleman - and a true gentle man. I know he will be missed so very deeply by everyone who knew him.
Mum only mentioned from her last visit how she could sit and listen to Pat’s stories all day - he was just so interesting.
Michelle, Mikayla, Brandon and Nicky - we can’t take away the pain - I wish we could - but look for the signs when you least expect it.
We are thinking about you all. Be there for each other xx
Pat was a real gentleman He was a loving dedicated husband and father. I admired his loving caring and respectful manner he always showed you guys, it was so beautiful to see. I’m so grateful for the memories we shared on our family visits . Pat was always happy and ready for any kind of adventure, I loved how he would point out things of interest when we would go out on adventures.I remember the last time we visited I told Pat how I loved listening to him talk because I found him to be so knowledgeable and interesting to listen to. I’m now so greatful I expressed my feelings to him . I remember sitting around playing board games , trying our hand with pottery or just sometimes chatting, he always made me feel welcome. Pat was and is a beautiful soul and I will always be grateful for the time we shared , love you Pat
RIP xxx




I hope he knew how much I admired him in all his achievements, and there were many. I never ceased to be amazed at his vast knowledge of varied subjects. He could literally talk about anything.
I have many memories of Pat and I will treasure those memories.
It was my honour to have known him and loved him. He will be in my thoughts always. ❤️❤️
Miriam Chetcuti.



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