Joseph Robert Lanzilli
Obituary
With deep sadness, we announce the passing of Joseph “Joe” Robert Lanzilli, 80, of Wake Forest, NC. He passed away on Saturday morning, August 15, 2026.
Proudly from East Boston, MA, Joe graduated from Northeastern University where he was a standout football player. After a brief stint with the Miami Dolphins in 1969, he went on to play semi pro football for another 2 years before starting his 47-year career in the food & candy business.
He was ‘one of a kind’. If you knew Joe, you are nodding your head right now.
Joe was a man of many passions:
• His family – the best way to put it is that he was always there for his family, no matter what the circumstance was
• Jogging and saying his prayers every morning – he almost never missed a day. The neighbors can attest as he talked to every single one as he jogged on by
• His dogs – he received great joy from his dogs (and grand dogs) over the years
• Candy & the candy business – he loved his work. He was known as the ‘candy man’ to a lot of people
• Cooking – he received the love of cooking from his mother (maybe not quite her skill though 😊)
• Coaching youth sports – he won a lot of games. More importantly, every kid in town wanted to play for him. Partly because he had a big bag of candy for every game. Mostly because he was encouraging and kind
• Golf – we’re pretty sure that he liked the golf trips more than the actual golf
• Boston sports teams – there aren't many grocery store workers in the state of North Carolina that don't know that he’s a Boston sports fan and has a dog named Ted Williams
• Giving – he had a passion for giving. His generosity was incomparable. In many cases, we’d get our birthday gifts a few days early as he couldn’t wait to give them to us. Many/most of you have received something from him. I guarantee it. You're nodding your head again
Joe had a great sense of humor and had a generous and caring heart for all people, whether they were family, friends, work colleagues or a complete stranger.
Joe was born on November 10, 1945 to the late Frank Lanzilli and Lucy DeLuzio Lanzilli.
Joe is survived by his beloved wife of 56 years, Joan DeLaney Lanzilli; daughter, Kim Lanzilli; son, Kevin Lanzilli and wife Leslie; three grandchildren, Camille, Ben, and Nicholas (Bear); sister Linda Lanzilli, of Durham, NC; sister-in-law Joy DeLaney Ingles, of Warsaw, NY; brother-in-law Kevin and Rebecca DeLaney, of Sherman Oaks, CA; niece and nephews; and several dear friends.
A private funeral mass of Christian burial will be held at St. Catherine of Siena Catholic Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital, a charity that was very important to Joe.
To donate, please use the following link: Donate to St. Jude's Children's Hospital
God Bless Joan’s husband, Kim and Kevin’s father, Linda’s brother and your friend. He will be missed!
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With many friends and family from the Northeast and around the country, we decided to have just an immediate family funeral service. This page was created so that you can leave your thoughts, prayers and memories on the memory wall below.
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August 22, 2026
As this memory wall shares Joe was truly one of a kind. He enjoyed life to its fullest and he not only Lived, , Laughed and Loved he genuinely cared about people. He taught me a lot about the brokerage business and he kept in touch after he retired. He was always in the loop on what our kids were doing in sports and even showed up at a little league game when he was in town. He was indeed about all things Boston. He was a great story teller and joke teller and always made people laugh and feel comfortable . He was proud of his family and his career in the candy industry. I was saddened to hear about Joe's passing and I smile/laugh as I think about the many memories of some of the escapades we shared over the years! Our condolences to Joan, KIm, Kevin, Leslie and the entire Lanzilli family! He was one of the funniest people that I have ever met!
August 22, 2026
Joe Lanzilli (Mr. Lanzilli) was a man of immense kindness, warmth, and boundless spirit, whose presence brought joy to everyone fortunate enough to know him. To those of us who grew up alongside his son Kevin, Mr. Lanzilli was far more than a friend’s father—he was a steady anchor, a mentor, and a constant source of inspiration.
Mr. Lanzilli’s passion for supporting youth sports left an indelible mark on our lives. Whether on the baseball field or at the ice rink, he was always there. As our hockey/baseball coach and fan, he never missed a game, standing by the glass or in the bleachers with a smile and a ready word of encouragement (and of course the bags passed around after the games). He poured his heart into our teams, teaching us not just how to play the game, but how to face challenges with resilience and sportsmanship.
Beyond his dedication as a coach, Mr. Lanzilli was simply the best. He was incredibly funny, sweet, and possessed a rare kindness that made everyone feel valued. I always enjoyed going to the Lanzilli house, golf course, baseball games, etc to hear the funny stories and memories he had to share while his little dog Toby ran around the house.
While his passing leaves a profound void, Mr. Lanzilli’s vibrant spirit, laughter, and legacy of love live on beautifully through his children and grandchildren. He will be deeply missed, but his memory will remain forever in the hearts of the players he coached, the friends he made, and the family he cherished above all else.
Mr. Lanzilli’s passion for supporting youth sports left an indelible mark on our lives. Whether on the baseball field or at the ice rink, he was always there. As our hockey/baseball coach and fan, he never missed a game, standing by the glass or in the bleachers with a smile and a ready word of encouragement (and of course the bags passed around after the games). He poured his heart into our teams, teaching us not just how to play the game, but how to face challenges with resilience and sportsmanship.
Beyond his dedication as a coach, Mr. Lanzilli was simply the best. He was incredibly funny, sweet, and possessed a rare kindness that made everyone feel valued. I always enjoyed going to the Lanzilli house, golf course, baseball games, etc to hear the funny stories and memories he had to share while his little dog Toby ran around the house.
While his passing leaves a profound void, Mr. Lanzilli’s vibrant spirit, laughter, and legacy of love live on beautifully through his children and grandchildren. He will be deeply missed, but his memory will remain forever in the hearts of the players he coached, the friends he made, and the family he cherished above all else.
August 21, 2026
I have worked with Kim for years. While I never had the chance to get to know Joe, there is a lot to be said for the love Kim has for her family, her loyalty, and her kindness, and from the sound of things, who she must've picked that up from! As deeply as that love is embedded in her, I can only imagine the love he must've had for his kids. It sounds like, from the memories everyone has shared of Mr. Lanzilli that I would have loved him as much as I love his daughter.
August 21, 2026
Joe was not only one of our very first broker partners, but also a dear friend and mentor who taught me so much over the years.
One memory I’ll always cherish is when Joe took me to his favorite Italian restaurant, and when I asked for my pasta al dente, he gave me a tap on my head and said, “Don’t Japanese tell an Italian chef how to cook their food!” We all burst out laughing. That was Joe, always full of humor, warmth, and unforgettable stories.
I’ll miss you big time, my friend. Thank you for everything you taught me and for all the laughs along the way. Rest in peace, you will always be part of the HI-CHEW family.
One memory I’ll always cherish is when Joe took me to his favorite Italian restaurant, and when I asked for my pasta al dente, he gave me a tap on my head and said, “Don’t Japanese tell an Italian chef how to cook their food!” We all burst out laughing. That was Joe, always full of humor, warmth, and unforgettable stories.
I’ll miss you big time, my friend. Thank you for everything you taught me and for all the laughs along the way. Rest in peace, you will always be part of the HI-CHEW family.
August 21, 2026
This is incredibly sad news. I have known Joe for 70 years. We grew up together in Orient Heights ,East Boston and played all sports together as kids. We had a very close knit group of friends for years,all of whom had very colorful nicknames. I went to all of his football games when he played for Northeastern. I remember very well the game when he blocked a punt and scored the winning touchdown to beat Tufts,my alma mater. I was the only one on the Tufts side cheering for Joe !! Also saw a few of his games for the Hartford Knights. Joe was an usher and his dear wife Joanie was a bridesmaid when Barbara and I were married in August of 1970. Two months later we returned the favor when Joe and Joanie were married. We have been close friends all these years although moving away prevented us from seeing each other very often . It was a joy for us to go to Kevin and Leslie's wedding and see how happy Joe and Joanie were. Our deepest sympathy to Joanie,Kim,Keven,Linda and the Lanzilli family. Ralph and Barbara Maffei,Vero FL
August 21, 2026
I have known Joe and Joan for a long time. My fondest memories will always be when the boys were in middle school through high school. They all became such close friends and the parents did as well. Joe was such a big part of this. We spent hours sitting on bleachers watching soccer, baseball, all the tournaments and of course Christmas Eve gatherings at the Ahlers.. Justin was very close to the Lanzilli family and had a special bond with Joe. I can still hear him say “You’re the Man”
Joe was such a sweet, funny guy, quick with a smile, a joke and the forever tease that Boston was better than the Yankees. Joe always made you so at home whether it was in Ringwood or at the shore. If you happened to mention you liked something the next time you saw him he would have tons of it just for you.. He was such a great family man, devoted husband and great Dad. He has touched so many people in his journey and will be forever remembered and have a place in our hearts.
Joe was such a sweet, funny guy, quick with a smile, a joke and the forever tease that Boston was better than the Yankees. Joe always made you so at home whether it was in Ringwood or at the shore. If you happened to mention you liked something the next time you saw him he would have tons of it just for you.. He was such a great family man, devoted husband and great Dad. He has touched so many people in his journey and will be forever remembered and have a place in our hearts.
August 19, 2026
Joe lights up every room he walks into with his authentic joy and zest for life. Three things to me that stood out about Joe from the first time I met him, and they still hold true to this day.
First, he authentically cares about others. He asks questions with intent and curiosity making everyone he talks to feel like the most important person in the room.
Second, he does not take himself too seriously. His lack of ego enables others to let their guard down and feel like you truly know each other after one conversation.
Third, the man has some jokes...and... there is something about the delivery where I know the joke is coming from about 10 words in, but I have no idea how we will get there or what the punchline will be. I find myself smiling along the entire journey before the joke even comes. I can't think of another person that has kept me more captivated with their storytelling and humor right from the first word.
Joe will be sorely missed by so many. Reading this wall and seeing the impact he has made on so many people has made me feel incredibly fortunate to have known him. He brought joy to every room with his authenticity, humility, and humor.
I am excited to see him again some day in heaven. In the meantime, I'm hoping the Cards pay back the Red Sox '04 sweep so I can have a good one liner waiting for him because I know he will have a few prepared for me.
First, he authentically cares about others. He asks questions with intent and curiosity making everyone he talks to feel like the most important person in the room.
Second, he does not take himself too seriously. His lack of ego enables others to let their guard down and feel like you truly know each other after one conversation.
Third, the man has some jokes...and... there is something about the delivery where I know the joke is coming from about 10 words in, but I have no idea how we will get there or what the punchline will be. I find myself smiling along the entire journey before the joke even comes. I can't think of another person that has kept me more captivated with their storytelling and humor right from the first word.
Joe will be sorely missed by so many. Reading this wall and seeing the impact he has made on so many people has made me feel incredibly fortunate to have known him. He brought joy to every room with his authenticity, humility, and humor.
I am excited to see him again some day in heaven. In the meantime, I'm hoping the Cards pay back the Red Sox '04 sweep so I can have a good one liner waiting for him because I know he will have a few prepared for me.
August 19, 2026
I was nodding along and smiling while reading so many of these tributes. Joe was larger than life and instantly brought such joy to any room he entered. It was always such a treat to see him and Joan anytime I visited my sister and her family in North Carolina.
He could always be counted on to bring a joke, plenty of food, and, of course, candy to any gathering. He knew when our family would be vacationing together in Florida and would send a gigantic box of assorted candy every time. He even knew everyone’s favorites—Peeps for Gina, chocolate caramel for me. A Hi-Chew shirt from one of those boxes is still one of my softest and favorite sleep shirts.
On one occasion, he insisted that my sister and I take his brand-new convertible to pick up my now-husband at the train station. Only Joe would think nothing of letting two teenagers take a fancy sports car for a joy ride!
I vividly remember getting to go to his candy warehouse with him and him encouraging us to take more and more. There was no limit to his thoughtfulness, generosity, and enthusiasm for life. He will be greatly missed.
He could always be counted on to bring a joke, plenty of food, and, of course, candy to any gathering. He knew when our family would be vacationing together in Florida and would send a gigantic box of assorted candy every time. He even knew everyone’s favorites—Peeps for Gina, chocolate caramel for me. A Hi-Chew shirt from one of those boxes is still one of my softest and favorite sleep shirts.
On one occasion, he insisted that my sister and I take his brand-new convertible to pick up my now-husband at the train station. Only Joe would think nothing of letting two teenagers take a fancy sports car for a joy ride!
I vividly remember getting to go to his candy warehouse with him and him encouraging us to take more and more. There was no limit to his thoughtfulness, generosity, and enthusiasm for life. He will be greatly missed.
August 19, 2026
I met Joe through my family’s candy business (Anpesil) and as a child was fortunate to go on a few of the Golick Martins trips. I cherish those memories! Later as an adult working in my family’s business I would see Joe more often, always smiling & funny. Brought us much joy & laughter when he walked in after the Patriots Super Bowl loss to the Giants no less! Orlando would jokingly remind him 17-1.
Joan & Joe were at our wedding 19 years ago and coincidentally last week Orlando & I were in Boston to celebrate our anniversary. I thought of Joe when we were in the North End, passing by Mike’s Pastry, & remembered the recommendations he gave us for our first trip years ago.
Our thoughts & prayers are with the Lanzilli family and all those who loved him. May he rest in eternal peace.
Joan & Joe were at our wedding 19 years ago and coincidentally last week Orlando & I were in Boston to celebrate our anniversary. I thought of Joe when we were in the North End, passing by Mike’s Pastry, & remembered the recommendations he gave us for our first trip years ago.
Our thoughts & prayers are with the Lanzilli family and all those who loved him. May he rest in eternal peace.
August 19, 2026
Joe had a great and compassionate heart. He was eloquent in the way he would treat you and a fierce defender of his beloved “Sawx” especially, when it was against us “Yankees”. Always with a quick comeback his quick wit was second to none. He was a larger than life figure and undoubtedly, one of a kind. - RIP “Big Guy” 🙏🏼
August 19, 2026
My best memory of Joe was always going to the Chadwick beach house and him cooking enough food for 10 people when it was just me and Joan that day. He loved to food shop, cook and tell jokes that although I laughed I never really got. Always had a smile and loved chatting with us girls. A great person, dedicated husband to Joan and terrific father to Kim and Kevin. Joe you will be missed by so many.
August 19, 2026
Thank you Joe for all of the education you gave me in the candy business. You encouraged me so many times. And you could always make me laugh. You will be sorely missed. Peggy Casey
August 19, 2026
When you spend four years as roommates with Kevin, you quickly learn that his dad isn't just a father, he's a legend. When we moved into the dorm our freshman year, he showed up with enough candy, gum, sunflower seeds, and assorted treats to stock a small convenience store. I quickly realized I could not keep pace with the influx of goodies. One day I casually mentioned that I liked candy corn. Most people would nod and move on. Mr. Lanzilli apparently took that as a challenge. The next thing I knew, a case of candy corn arrived at the dorm. A full case. To this day, my dentist sends him a silent thank you every time he looks at his boat payment.
He loved showing up at our baseball games, whether they were down the street or halfway across the country. Midweek at Northeastern or a double header at Sacramento State, you'd look into the stands and there he'd be, usually with a smile, a story, an extra sandwich for me and enough gummy bears for the entire team. He was our number one fan!
I was also lucky enough to spend time with him on a few golf trips. Playing golf with him was an adventure. The score was always secondary to the laughs. Every round came with a collection of stories, most of which got funnier with each retelling. Somewhere between the first tee and the eighteenth green, he could turn an ordinary day into one you'd be talking about for years.
But what made him special wasn't the candy. It was the way he made everyone feel like family. He had a gift for making people laugh, making people feel welcome, and making sure nobody ever left hungry.
While we'll miss the candy, the golf trips, and the stories, I know that his legacy will live on through Kevin & Leslie, Kim, Mrs. Lanzilli, his Grandkids, and all those that he has touched throughout his life.
I like to imagine that somewhere up above, he's already found the heavenly clubhouse, handed out bags of Big-League Chew to everyone, and is telling stories so good that even the angels are asking him to repeat them.
Rest in peace, Mr. Lanzilli. Thanks for all the memories, the laughs, and the cavities.
He loved showing up at our baseball games, whether they were down the street or halfway across the country. Midweek at Northeastern or a double header at Sacramento State, you'd look into the stands and there he'd be, usually with a smile, a story, an extra sandwich for me and enough gummy bears for the entire team. He was our number one fan!
I was also lucky enough to spend time with him on a few golf trips. Playing golf with him was an adventure. The score was always secondary to the laughs. Every round came with a collection of stories, most of which got funnier with each retelling. Somewhere between the first tee and the eighteenth green, he could turn an ordinary day into one you'd be talking about for years.
But what made him special wasn't the candy. It was the way he made everyone feel like family. He had a gift for making people laugh, making people feel welcome, and making sure nobody ever left hungry.
While we'll miss the candy, the golf trips, and the stories, I know that his legacy will live on through Kevin & Leslie, Kim, Mrs. Lanzilli, his Grandkids, and all those that he has touched throughout his life.
I like to imagine that somewhere up above, he's already found the heavenly clubhouse, handed out bags of Big-League Chew to everyone, and is telling stories so good that even the angels are asking him to repeat them.
Rest in peace, Mr. Lanzilli. Thanks for all the memories, the laughs, and the cavities.
August 19, 2026
Some people come into your life and become so much more than you anticipated. Joe was one of those people for me.
I met Joe in 1985 when I was hired at Golick Martins. He was a boss and a mentor, and eventually a friend, and in so many ways, a father figure. His impact on my life went far beyond the workplace.
Joe had a way of making people feel comfortable and valued. He was wonderfully funny, quick-witted, and always had a story to tell. His industry stories could keep a room laughing, but what I will remember most is the person behind the stories—the kindness, the loyalty, the wisdom, and the genuine care he had for the people in his life.
He taught me a great deal. But some of the most important things were never lessons he intentionally set out to teach. They came simply from knowing him, watching how he treated people, how he maintained friendships throughout the years, how he could make people laugh when they needed it most, and how he remained someone you could always count on.
Joe was one of those rare people who made a difference simply by being in your life. He left an imprint on me that will never go away.
I will miss his laugh, his stories, his sense of humor, his advice, and all the many conversations.
Most of all, I will miss him.
Rest peacefully, Joe.
I will miss you more than words can say.
So, until the next conversation, the next laugh, and the next story...
Domani.
I met Joe in 1985 when I was hired at Golick Martins. He was a boss and a mentor, and eventually a friend, and in so many ways, a father figure. His impact on my life went far beyond the workplace.
Joe had a way of making people feel comfortable and valued. He was wonderfully funny, quick-witted, and always had a story to tell. His industry stories could keep a room laughing, but what I will remember most is the person behind the stories—the kindness, the loyalty, the wisdom, and the genuine care he had for the people in his life.
He taught me a great deal. But some of the most important things were never lessons he intentionally set out to teach. They came simply from knowing him, watching how he treated people, how he maintained friendships throughout the years, how he could make people laugh when they needed it most, and how he remained someone you could always count on.
Joe was one of those rare people who made a difference simply by being in your life. He left an imprint on me that will never go away.
I will miss his laugh, his stories, his sense of humor, his advice, and all the many conversations.
Most of all, I will miss him.
Rest peacefully, Joe.
I will miss you more than words can say.
So, until the next conversation, the next laugh, and the next story...
Domani.
August 19, 2026
Although I didn’t have the privilege of knowing Joe for decades, it didn't take long to understand who he was. From overhearing Kim's and his funny banter to visits in the hospitals, his huge spirit was obvious.
I think a true measure of a man is reflected in the family he loves and raises. Joe and Joan built a wonderful foundation, and every single day I see Joe’s humor and kindness shining through Kim. I am thankful to Joe for helping shape the incredible person Kim is today.
I didn't quite understand when one day Kim packed me with a plastic bag of Hi-Chew candies... It all makes so much sense now.
Sending all my love and support to Joan, Kim, Kevin, and the entire Lanzilli family.
Rest easy Joe.
I think a true measure of a man is reflected in the family he loves and raises. Joe and Joan built a wonderful foundation, and every single day I see Joe’s humor and kindness shining through Kim. I am thankful to Joe for helping shape the incredible person Kim is today.
I didn't quite understand when one day Kim packed me with a plastic bag of Hi-Chew candies... It all makes so much sense now.
Sending all my love and support to Joan, Kim, Kevin, and the entire Lanzilli family.
Rest easy Joe.
August 19, 2026
When I picture Joe, he is smiling and laughing. He was always so welcoming and ready to strike up a conversation with anyone — a wonderful trait he passed on to his kids. He was friendly, generous, and made sure everyone felt included. He was one of those people who talked with a laugh, making every conversation feel fun.
I first met Joe when my sister and Kevin were dating. He and Joan invited Mike and me over for a turkey dinner. Like a true Italian, he showed his love through food and cooking. When we lived in our small New York apartment, our kitchen cabinets were always full of chocolate, candy, and snacks because every time Leslie saw Joe, he handed her a bag of goodies. We barely had room for groceries! He was truly our “candyman.” Joe also welcomed us into his home at the Jersey Shore and shared his deep love for the place with us. He was so enthusiastic about what he loved that you couldn't help but love it, too.
He was an amazing father-in-law to my sister, a wonderfully involved grandfather to my niece and nephews, and a dedicated father who raised two incredible kids. He will be deeply missed by many. Joan, Kim, and Kevin, we are so sorry for your loss.
I first met Joe when my sister and Kevin were dating. He and Joan invited Mike and me over for a turkey dinner. Like a true Italian, he showed his love through food and cooking. When we lived in our small New York apartment, our kitchen cabinets were always full of chocolate, candy, and snacks because every time Leslie saw Joe, he handed her a bag of goodies. We barely had room for groceries! He was truly our “candyman.” Joe also welcomed us into his home at the Jersey Shore and shared his deep love for the place with us. He was so enthusiastic about what he loved that you couldn't help but love it, too.
He was an amazing father-in-law to my sister, a wonderfully involved grandfather to my niece and nephews, and a dedicated father who raised two incredible kids. He will be deeply missed by many. Joan, Kim, and Kevin, we are so sorry for your loss.
August 19, 2026
Joe Was my father-in-law….where do I even begin….i met him 22 years ago and he welcomed me into his family with open arms. He’s only been gone less than a week, but the hole left behind in this family feels too large to bear. I literally can’t even pass by the peanut butter at the grocery store with out tearing up because he would always buy an extra item like that and give it to me saying “it was buy one get one Leslie”. And I think that’s exactly why the hole feels so big, because he made me feel like he thought of me often…and I know that all of those little thoughtful gifts that I have received for the last 22 years have come to an end. I really going to miss that thoughtfulness. I’m also going to miss the fun he brought to my life…his infamous homemade Bundt cakes that were filled with candy including gummie bears!!! His knock-knock jokes that weren’t actually funny, but still made you smile, his collection of brightly colored socks that never matched what he was wearing, his hilarious and sometimes inappropriate stories told around the dinner table, he was just a person who was filled with love and joy. He was also a very generous man…he and Joan took Kevin and I out to a fancy dinner to celebrate our engagement. He ordered a giant seafood tower as an appetizer because he knew I liked shrimp cocktail, and did not bat an eye at the price…it really made me feel celebrated and special. Once while passing through the lobby of a hotel in Boston, my 2 year old daughter pointed at a two foot, yellow, plastic duck in one of the store windows. Ten minutes later he was knocking on the door to our hotel room handing the duck to Cammie who was beaming….I later noticed there was still a small price tag stuck to the bottom of the duck…$85….anything to make his beloved grandchildren smile. And what a grandfather he was!!!! He completely doted on my three children….imagine being the grandchild of a fun-loving, thoughtful, and generous CANDYMAN!!!!!!! From larger than life lollipops, endless quarters for games and arcades at the Jersey shore boardwalk, many vacations, 4 foot stuffed animals, never missing dance recitals or sporting events, dressing up as a family to trick or treat, buying clothing and gifts for our dogs…I mean the list literally goes on and on and on….actually words couldn’t possibly do him justice.
I miss him. It’s not the same with out him, but that’s the thing about a life lived with such love….when your gone, the people you have left behind are left with such goodness in their hearts, so many happy memories to think about…and thankfully the knowledge that they will see you again in heaven…I look forward to that.
I miss him. It’s not the same with out him, but that’s the thing about a life lived with such love….when your gone, the people you have left behind are left with such goodness in their hearts, so many happy memories to think about…and thankfully the knowledge that they will see you again in heaven…I look forward to that.
August 19, 2026
What a great tribute to Joe. Thank you to the Joan, Kevin and Kim for sharing it and writing in it so well.
So many of the details lined up specific memories for me. I remember Joe cooking my wife and I dinner at our first meeting - it was a complete Thanksgiving spread in June, and he described in detail why each item was slightly less than perfect in his mind. This went on for like an hour.We could hardly get a word in. I remember telling him earlier on that I didn’t like candy that much, which was a mistake. Thereafter, He sent me an entire box of ham jerky. That’s right ham jerky. When he asked me how it was I told him honestly it was terrible. He laughed and told me I should start liking candy. So fortunate to have been able to experience a golf trip with him. More irreverent, and terrible jokes than I can remember. Finally, I have a visceral memory of touring the famous candy warehouse with Joe and my in-laws. At some point, Joe and I were walking one of the isles alone, and Joe seized the moment by staring me right in the eyes and telling me Kevin and I better appreciate how good we had it, as we’d married into the best family he could imagine, and we needed to stick together and make sure we didn’t screw it up!
I love you, Joe and we will miss you very much.
So many of the details lined up specific memories for me. I remember Joe cooking my wife and I dinner at our first meeting - it was a complete Thanksgiving spread in June, and he described in detail why each item was slightly less than perfect in his mind. This went on for like an hour.We could hardly get a word in. I remember telling him earlier on that I didn’t like candy that much, which was a mistake. Thereafter, He sent me an entire box of ham jerky. That’s right ham jerky. When he asked me how it was I told him honestly it was terrible. He laughed and told me I should start liking candy. So fortunate to have been able to experience a golf trip with him. More irreverent, and terrible jokes than I can remember. Finally, I have a visceral memory of touring the famous candy warehouse with Joe and my in-laws. At some point, Joe and I were walking one of the isles alone, and Joe seized the moment by staring me right in the eyes and telling me Kevin and I better appreciate how good we had it, as we’d married into the best family he could imagine, and we needed to stick together and make sure we didn’t screw it up!
I love you, Joe and we will miss you very much.
August 19, 2026
Kim, my heart goes out to you and your entire family. I’ve been blessed to call you a dear friend for nearly 20 years, and I had the pleasure of meeting your dad a few times. He was always so funny, charming, and genuinely kind. I’ll never forget when he gave me a card to celebrate an accomplishment that said, “Keep going, Rocket Squirrel!” such a thoughtful gesture that perfectly reflected his wonderful spirit.
Your vibrant energy, humor, and warmth are clearly a beautiful reflection of your father. May his memory bring you comfort and may you feel surrounded by love during this incredibly difficult time.
Your vibrant energy, humor, and warmth are clearly a beautiful reflection of your father. May his memory bring you comfort and may you feel surrounded by love during this incredibly difficult time.
August 19, 2026
Being Kim’s best friend growing up meant I got to be along for a lot of fun adventures—typically in a white Cadillac. There were definitely some perks to rolling with the Candy Man! There was special access at baseball games, meeting the drivers at the dragster races while handing out free Jolly Ranchers, and, of course, the unforgettable all-you-can-bag trips to the candy sample room at his office.
He was the first person I ever knew who had a car phone, and I will never forget hearing him yell in his unmistakable Boston accent, “Get in the caaaaaa, Kim! … Kim, get in the caaaaaa!”
From Temptations family karaoke in my Ringwood basement to the pack of doodles at their family's Jersey shore house, Mr. Lanzilli was always so much fun. Even if years had gone by between seeing each other, he was one of those people who was always incredibly easy to reconnect with.
Sending so much love to Joan, Kim, Kevin, and the entire Lanzilli family.
Rest in peace, Mr. Lanzilli. You will be missed. ❤️
He was the first person I ever knew who had a car phone, and I will never forget hearing him yell in his unmistakable Boston accent, “Get in the caaaaaa, Kim! … Kim, get in the caaaaaa!”
From Temptations family karaoke in my Ringwood basement to the pack of doodles at their family's Jersey shore house, Mr. Lanzilli was always so much fun. Even if years had gone by between seeing each other, he was one of those people who was always incredibly easy to reconnect with.
Sending so much love to Joan, Kim, Kevin, and the entire Lanzilli family.
Rest in peace, Mr. Lanzilli. You will be missed. ❤️
August 18, 2026
Joe, affectionately known as “The Candy Man,” was truly a one-of-a-kind friend whose presence left a lasting imprint on everyone fortunate enough to know him.
His stories were endlessly entertaining—delivered with such charm and ease that you were never quite sure where truth ended and playful mischief began. That mystery was part of his gift. What was never in doubt, however, was the warmth behind his smile, the ease of his spirit, and the way his humor could light up even an ordinary moment.
Being with Joe in public was its own kind of experience. Whether in a restaurant or a store, he had a remarkable habit of approaching complete strangers—not with hesitation, but with genuine curiosity and joy. Sometimes it was a question, sometimes a story, and often a joke that seemed to appear out of nowhere. And almost without fail, by the time he walked away, that stranger was smiling—and somehow no longer a stranger at all. Joe had a way of turning brief encounters into meaningful human connection.
His simple philosophy seemed to be this: offer a smile, share a moment, lift a spirit, and leave someone’s day a little brighter than he found it.
Even during the final year of his life, as he moved in and out of hospitals and physical therapy appointments, Joe continued to touch lives. The staff who cared for him spoke of him not just as a patient, but as someone memorable—someone who brought light into their workday. He left impressions everywhere he went, as though kindness itself followed him into every room.
Joe’s life was a quiet but powerful testimony to the impact one person can have simply by choosing to see others, to engage them, and to care. He leaves this world undeniably better for all of us who had the privilege of knowing him.
And now, I can only imagine that his Heavenly Father has welcomed him home with the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
His stories were endlessly entertaining—delivered with such charm and ease that you were never quite sure where truth ended and playful mischief began. That mystery was part of his gift. What was never in doubt, however, was the warmth behind his smile, the ease of his spirit, and the way his humor could light up even an ordinary moment.
Being with Joe in public was its own kind of experience. Whether in a restaurant or a store, he had a remarkable habit of approaching complete strangers—not with hesitation, but with genuine curiosity and joy. Sometimes it was a question, sometimes a story, and often a joke that seemed to appear out of nowhere. And almost without fail, by the time he walked away, that stranger was smiling—and somehow no longer a stranger at all. Joe had a way of turning brief encounters into meaningful human connection.
His simple philosophy seemed to be this: offer a smile, share a moment, lift a spirit, and leave someone’s day a little brighter than he found it.
Even during the final year of his life, as he moved in and out of hospitals and physical therapy appointments, Joe continued to touch lives. The staff who cared for him spoke of him not just as a patient, but as someone memorable—someone who brought light into their workday. He left impressions everywhere he went, as though kindness itself followed him into every room.
Joe’s life was a quiet but powerful testimony to the impact one person can have simply by choosing to see others, to engage them, and to care. He leaves this world undeniably better for all of us who had the privilege of knowing him.
And now, I can only imagine that his Heavenly Father has welcomed him home with the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
August 18, 2026
Joe will always hold a special place in my heart. I will remember him for his incredible generosity, his great sense of humor, and the way he made even the simplest moments memorable.
I can still picture Kim and me meeting Joe in the Kohl’s parking lot for our “dog swaps.” He would pull in with the windows down, the music blaring, and Romeo in the backseat. We’d try to talk to him, and he would pretend to drive away from us. It was such a simple thing, but it always made us laugh. That was Joe—funny, playful, and always ready to make a moment more fun.
I was also lucky enough to experience Joe’s cooking, and his meatballs and sauce were absolutely delicious. And his generosity extended far beyond the kitchen. Whenever we stayed at the shore house, the pantry was always fully stocked with the most delicious snacks and candies. Opening that pantry door felt like walking into a party!
Whenever I was in town, Joe always wanted to know what we were doing, where we were going, and, most importantly, what restaurant we were eating at. He was always ready with a recommendation and would want to hear all about it afterward. It was clear that he genuinely cared and loved being part of our lives.
Kim has inherited so much of her father’s beautiful spirit—especially his kind and generous heart. I feel very fortunate to have known Joe and to have so many wonderful memories of him. He will be deeply missed, but his laughter, kindness, generosity, and love will live on in all of us who were lucky enough to know him.
I can still picture Kim and me meeting Joe in the Kohl’s parking lot for our “dog swaps.” He would pull in with the windows down, the music blaring, and Romeo in the backseat. We’d try to talk to him, and he would pretend to drive away from us. It was such a simple thing, but it always made us laugh. That was Joe—funny, playful, and always ready to make a moment more fun.
I was also lucky enough to experience Joe’s cooking, and his meatballs and sauce were absolutely delicious. And his generosity extended far beyond the kitchen. Whenever we stayed at the shore house, the pantry was always fully stocked with the most delicious snacks and candies. Opening that pantry door felt like walking into a party!
Whenever I was in town, Joe always wanted to know what we were doing, where we were going, and, most importantly, what restaurant we were eating at. He was always ready with a recommendation and would want to hear all about it afterward. It was clear that he genuinely cared and loved being part of our lives.
Kim has inherited so much of her father’s beautiful spirit—especially his kind and generous heart. I feel very fortunate to have known Joe and to have so many wonderful memories of him. He will be deeply missed, but his laughter, kindness, generosity, and love will live on in all of us who were lucky enough to know him.
August 18, 2026
Joe was a truly special person and a wonderful neighbor and friend. We will always remember his great sense of humor, his warm personality, and the many enjoyable conversations we shared. His kindness and laughter brought so much joy to those around him.
We will miss Joe dearly and feel very fortunate to have known him. Our thoughts and deepest sympathies are with the Lanzilli family. May he rest in peace. ❤️
We will miss Joe dearly and feel very fortunate to have known him. Our thoughts and deepest sympathies are with the Lanzilli family. May he rest in peace. ❤️
August 18, 2026
The Lanzilli family had a Christmas party every year like no other—enjoyed by all. Joe’s generosity as the candy man was shared with everyone. To this day I’m still hooked on Werther’s and think of him fondly.
I’m sending my heartfelt condolences to Joan, Kevin, and Kim. I feel Joe will have a special place on his next journey.
With sadness and love,
Marguerite
I’m sending my heartfelt condolences to Joan, Kevin, and Kim. I feel Joe will have a special place on his next journey.
With sadness and love,
Marguerite
August 18, 2026
Our deepest condolences to the Lanzilli family. I never met Joe but know his family and I can see why he was beloved as a father, husband, grandfather and friend. RIP.
August 18, 2026
The jokes, the silliness, the yummy brownies with the fresh name! The pool in OIB, Clarks & Maria’s!! Joe you will always be my favorite “masshole” and you will be greatly missed! Joanie and Kim my heart breaks that you will be without him! Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers! Heaven will be a happier place now that he is there!
August 18, 2026
Joe Lanzilli or Mr Lanzilli to me, the man who shook the man of the man who shook the hand….
Having Kevin as a best friend growing up was incredible but being included into a family as one of them or maybe the goofy adopted one was something special.
Mr Lanzilli was so special to me in life, he was another father figure, he introduced me to the Temptations as a 12 year old and to this day it is still part of the soundtrack to my life. So many funny stories some shareable some not, but most of all such a warm man with the greatest sense of humor. I could go a decade not seeing him and instantly if I saw him it took me back to being a 13 year old and we would rekindle our silly bond with a handshake. Hopefully he is walking a sideline with Toby somewhere !
Having Kevin as a best friend growing up was incredible but being included into a family as one of them or maybe the goofy adopted one was something special.
Mr Lanzilli was so special to me in life, he was another father figure, he introduced me to the Temptations as a 12 year old and to this day it is still part of the soundtrack to my life. So many funny stories some shareable some not, but most of all such a warm man with the greatest sense of humor. I could go a decade not seeing him and instantly if I saw him it took me back to being a 13 year old and we would rekindle our silly bond with a handshake. Hopefully he is walking a sideline with Toby somewhere !
August 18, 2026
Joe sounds like an amazing man! All our prayers and blessings to you Kim and your family. Joe was an Eastie! I love that. Go Boston!! He is looking down the Sox right now!
Love
The Kopp Family
Love
The Kopp Family
August 18, 2026
I’m deeply saddened by the passing of Joe, my friend’s father and my neighbor. Joe was more than just someone who lived nearby — he was a familiar face, a good man, and someone who became a part of our neighborhood and our lives.
It’s the everyday conversations, the simple moments, and the memories that you don’t always realize you’ll miss until someone is gone. Especially the sports, candy he always had (bubble tape/ big league chew) and my own personal experience of our window races Joe will certainly be missed, and his memory will live on with all of us who had the pleasure of knowing him.
My deepest condolences to Kevin, Kim ,Joan and their entire family . May they find comfort in the memories they shared with Joe and in knowing how much he was loved and respected.
Rest peacefully, Joe. You will be missed.
It’s the everyday conversations, the simple moments, and the memories that you don’t always realize you’ll miss until someone is gone. Especially the sports, candy he always had (bubble tape/ big league chew) and my own personal experience of our window races Joe will certainly be missed, and his memory will live on with all of us who had the pleasure of knowing him.
My deepest condolences to Kevin, Kim ,Joan and their entire family . May they find comfort in the memories they shared with Joe and in knowing how much he was loved and respected.
Rest peacefully, Joe. You will be missed.
August 18, 2026
He was such a wonderful guy. Always funny and kind. And you can SEE how good he was when you meet the kids he helped raise—because they're wonderful people too. He will be missed.
August 18, 2026
The world has lost a very special person, and Mr. Lanzilli will surely be missed.
His kindness, generosity, and warm spirit will always be remembered. When we were little, he was the “Candyman”—always bringing smiles to our faces and making childhood just a little sweeter. Those simple moments may have seemed small at the time, but they became memories that stayed with us.
What made Mr. Lanzilli so special was the way he made people feel. His kindness touched so many lives, and his generosity will never be forgotten.
Today, as we walk in his memory, we celebrate the wonderful person he was and the lasting impression he left on all of us. We are so grateful for the memories, the smiles, and the sweetness he brought into our lives.
May he rest peacefully, and may his family find comfort in knowing just how loved and cherished he was.
His kindness, generosity, and warm spirit will always be remembered. When we were little, he was the “Candyman”—always bringing smiles to our faces and making childhood just a little sweeter. Those simple moments may have seemed small at the time, but they became memories that stayed with us.
What made Mr. Lanzilli so special was the way he made people feel. His kindness touched so many lives, and his generosity will never be forgotten.
Today, as we walk in his memory, we celebrate the wonderful person he was and the lasting impression he left on all of us. We are so grateful for the memories, the smiles, and the sweetness he brought into our lives.
May he rest peacefully, and may his family find comfort in knowing just how loved and cherished he was.
August 18, 2026
I had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Lanzilli while I attended URI with his son Kevin. We played baseball together for 4 years and lived together for 2 of them. Mr. Lanzilli was one of the most generous and kind hearted man I have had the pleasure to meet. I don't recall one baseball game that he missed during those 4 years and traveled with us all over the country. With every trip, came snacks, chips, and of course Snapple. I was one of the lucky ones living with Kevin that I got free access to have as much as I wanted and believe me they came in handy. Truth be told, every time I see a Snapple, I think of Mr. Lanzilli. Another memory I have is Mr. Lanzilli used to let us use a house in Hilton Head he would rent for his clients. He would always let us use the house before they got there so we could get together and golf. I always appreciated that and it was a lot of fun and made great memories. Mr. Lanzilli will be missed but never forgotten and I am grateful I had the pleasure of knowing him and what he meant to his family. His legacy will live on with his family and grandchildren. My condolences to the entire Lanzilli family and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
August 18, 2026
Mr. Lanzilli was the kind of supportive dad I will always remembered from my childhood. He always had a warm smile and a kind greeting after every game, and was such a positive presence for all of us.
I’ll always remember his smile, his generosity with the candy, and most of all, his patience and positivity. He was simply a really good man who left a lasting impression on so many of us.
I’ll always remember his smile, his generosity with the candy, and most of all, his patience and positivity. He was simply a really good man who left a lasting impression on so many of us.
August 18, 2026
During the short time I knew Mr. Joe, he was one of the most selfless and kindest people I had ever met. Even in his own time of need, he would always consider whether his requests were a bother to me—which, of course, they never were. That was just the kind of person he was, always thinking of others. Mr. Joe will be dearly missed. My deepest condolences to his amazing family. ❤️
August 18, 2026
As a good friend of Kim's I love reading about the full and very rich life her Dad led. Sounds like he had a big heart and generous spirit. May his memory be a blessing to his family, and all who knew and cared about him.
August 18, 2026
Joe was so friendly and funny when I stayed at the Lanzilli's shore house. My family is from Massachusetts and it was fun to talk with someone in New Jersey about the Red Sox. He shot invisible lasers at me with his index finger and went, "Beauu! Beeaauuu!" I found all this incredibly delightful. It was easy to tell Joe was a great family man and one-of-a-kind. I wish I would have been on one of his sports teams growing up! Sending my condolences to the Lanzilli family.
August 18, 2026
Joe was an amazing man, but anyone reading this already know this as fact. And yes, I found myself nodding & smiling through tears reading this heartwarming tribute 💗 it was a blessing to have had the opportunity to work with Joe in the industry, he indeed was one of a kind, taught so much to so many and ALWAYS, always left you laughing - funny first. I will miss the annual birthday texts each year … time is a thief. My sincere condolences to the family he so adored, you were indeed his greatest joy in life.
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