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Jessica Naomi Gagg-Lopez. October 1, 1977 - August 9, 2024
Jessica Naomi Gagg-Lopez left this earth Friday, August 9th 2024 although she will never leave our hearts. She was a loving, kind, caring, friendly, giving, generous and gentle soul. She never knew a stranger and was always there for her family and friends even in her own darkest moments, always showing courage through the toughest of times. Jessica was a wonderful, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. Although she struggled and suffered with several chronic illnesses over the last years of her life, she remained strong til the end and we can all take solace in knowing she is no longer suffering and in pain.
Jessica is preceded in death by her Grandmother, Dorothy Mae Wagner; Grandfather William Pierce; Grandmother, Mary Pierce; Grandmother Marge Gagg; Grandfather, Bill Gagg and Uncle, Monty Gagg. Jessica leaves behind, until we see her again, her Son, Cameron Lopez; Mother, Rebecca Lathan (Mack Lathan); Father, Ron Gagg; Sister, Kimberly Kozeniesky (Jason Kozeniesky); Brother, Cody Gagg; Sister, Betty Tagliarino (Mike Tagliarino); Nephew, Ryan Kozeniesky (Madison Kozeniesky; Niece, Samantha Kozeniesky (Emma Kozeniesky); long-time friend, Christian Lopez; partner for the last 18 years of her life, Adam Cole, and many others who loved her.
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-Love your Nephew Ryan and Niece-in-law Maddy ❤️
It’s still so hard to believe that you’re not with us anymore. We didn’t get to spend much time together, but one thing I will never forget about you is how warm and kind you were to me from the first time we met. I remember being nervous that morning at Vernon Diner (because who could possibly be good enough for Cameron?), but you instantly made me feel at home. Your love and kindness knew no bounds.
You always encouraged us in our adventures big and small, whether it was flying to Germany for a week or crafting collages on the floor on a Saturday night.
It was clear every time we spoke that the most important thing in the world to you was Cameron’s happiness. I hope you find solace knowing that your love for him lives on in us all.
The last thing you told me was how happy he looked and how you couldn’t wait to join us on an adventure soon.
We miss you Jess, and you’ll be with us on every adventure.
Love,
Nina
Do not stand
By my grave, and weep.
I am not there,
I do not sleep—
I am the thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle, autumn rain.
As you awake with morning’s hush,
I am the swift, up-flinging rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight,
I am the day transcending night.
Do not stand
By my grave, and cry—
I am not there,
I did not die.
— Clare Harner
How do I even begin to say how much you meant to me?
You were my lover, my absolute rock and my best friend for 18 years.
We experienced pretty much any and everything, good and bad, that life could throw at us.
We were two libras constantly trying to level each other out and you faced every day with a strength, promise and as an example of how GOOD a person could be even in spite of the trials you, and I, would and did face.
You made my life fuller, sweeter, better than anyone could imagine.
You made a beautiful human being in Cameron who loved you and who you loved, learned and listened to with your WHOLE HEART and the essence of your being.
I am awash still in grief and I can only hope that you are with all the people you shined your light and love on and no longer in any pain.
This is BY FAR the hardest thing that I will ever do and I must use MY love for you and our baby Daisy Dog to have a chance to come through this intact.
This is all I can manage to say right now as every minute my soul aches in your absence and my scale will hopefully rebalance with time.
I love you ALWAYS! If nothing else I KNOW this world was infinitely better with you in it... I know mine was... Rest in angelic peace now my beautiful, smart, funny and selfless Jessica💜
I will do my best to face the days ahead with half as much strength, compassion, vigor, hope and boundless love that YOU did.
My mother has said that none of us for, only change form.
I feel this is true however painful it is, and will be, to keep in mind and remember but I pray that you and your SO LOVING presence will help light my path until the day we meet again.
Goodbye my wandering star.
I know I will find you in the air I breathe, the sun and (your favorite) a crescent moon that you always said you wanted to sit in and let your legs hang from as you could watch the earth from up there.
THAT is where I know you'll be.
Thank you as well for your family and, by extension and through the love of you, welcomed me into as my own.
Until we meet again, up there in the stars and heavens, I remain your soulmate as you were mine💜❤️🩹🙏🌙 Love,
Adam 💔💞
Love you Jess always
Every time that I look at this picture I can see in my face the pure happiness and excitement for life that I so often remember feeling throughout my childhood because of you. My earliest memories are of you smiling, of feeling absolutely and unconditionally loved. Words can't describe how lucky that makes me feel, to have had you as my mother. That love extended to everybody else in your life as well. You were always kind, always as positive as you could bring yourself to be. Never even in the most difficult of times and situations did I see you fail to take other people's feelings into account. You set an amazing example for me, and showed me among countless other things what love really means. In my adult life I found a best friend in you, somebody I could joke around with, talk about music and books and everything under the sun with, for hours. Everything reminds me of you, from the incense I light at night to the songs I listen to on the road. Now those songs make me tear up, but I never turn them off. You were beautiful inside and out and never deserved to feel any pain that you felt. I like to think that maybe you're somewhere happy. The feelings on my face in the picture, the happiness and excitement, I don't expect to feel them as intensely ever again now that I can't see you or hear your voice. They'll stay trapped in the pictures. But I know that you're still with me, and I'm still with you, and we'll be together forever. I love you mom.
-Cam
What a tough week this has been coming to terms with your passing WAY too young! I will never forget all the fun times we had together in highschool.
Some of my fondest memories that I can remember from 30+ years ago.,…listening to Bauhaus in your room while perfecting our cat eye eyeliner; making our Riot Grrrl t-shirts in your basement while attempting to recruit other girls (not in our clique) to join when it was always just us 5 grrrls interested; attempting to start our band “Purl” which never was a success cuz I could never teach myself to play drums with a broken elbow in a cast; walking the wooded trail down through the woods to Christian’s house at night while I was terrified; singing painting our nails black with Delores while Christian played Primus on his bass; you smoking your Menthols between classes- when you even decided to attend school that day; singing along to Taco Bell radio station afterschool; trading Dougie’s baggie comfty overalls between us girls and fighting over who wore them that particular week; hysterically laughing at macaroni-n-cheese “bowl action” at my house that one weekend my parents were out of town & strawberries at the door while smoking weed. I could go on and on. We lost touch after highschool going our separate ways & only re-connected many years later on FB in 2014 & touched base here and there since then. I miss you being in existence Jess. Thank you for being my friend. 🫶🏻
Love,
Angie
“Shmesh” as we used to lovingly refer to you. This loss has hit me really hard and I’m sad to admit that it feels like I lost you a long time ago. For that I am truly sorry.
Realizing how much you loved someone like a sister when it is too late to tell them, is pretty heartbreaking. You were and always will be family to me. We spent countless holidays and fun times together. Thanks to you dating and eventually marrying my brother, you became a huge part of our young lives.
I was there when you became a mother(like quite literally in the room). I was there when you got married. You were there when our mom passed. I was there when Cameron needed all of us, and I was there for you in the end…when you needed us. I will always remember the good times. You deserved to have more of those. I will also ALWAYS be there for Cameron. So don’t worry about that.
I’m so glad that you are no longer suffering, but I wish that I could give you one last hug and tell you how much I love you. I’ll never forget you Jess.
Love,
Carissa
“Yesterday the sky was you
And I still feel the same
Nothing left for me to do
And I still feel the same
I wish, I wish I could fly
I wish, I wish I could lie
I will, I will try
I will, I will
Goodbye”
Aunt Lynn
I know you were comforted by our son's happiness, and I know you were armored from the fear of our own mortality in the knowledge that he is thriving. I think that you came to understand how thin the veil is between this life and the next, and that gave you a deep well of caring and generosity from which to draw.
I chose a picture of you as a child - you standing there with your "boppies" like an angel. We forget, as the years pass, that we all start the same. We come to this world as angels with a sense of wonder for everything. It's rare that we leave that way. But you did, Jessica. You came an angel, and you left an angel.
Rest now, sweet angel. I'll miss you forever.
Your smile and your laughter would light up a room and you always had such a love for your family and friends. Our hearts are shattered at the loss of you in our lives and this world will be a darker place without you in it but I know I will see you again. I know you are no longer suffering and in pain and I take some solace in that; although knowing that I will never be able to speak to you again, hear your voice or chat with you tears me apart inside. My world will never be the same without you in it. As much as my heart was full when you came into this world, it is even emptier now that you are gone. I know you are watching over all of us and sending us signs that you are with us and okay now. I love you my sweet sister, always!!
Love, your Big Sis
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