Đồng Xuân  Phạm

April  24th, 1948 June  26th, 2024
Corpus Christi, Texas
Đồng Xuân  Phạm

In dreams and in life, nothing is impossible.

Obituary

Dong X. Phạm, (Phạm Xuân Đồng) devoted husband, father, brother, friend, and mentor, passed away peacefully on June 26, 2024, at the age of 76 in Corpus Christi, Texas. Dong was born in a small northern Vietnam rice village known as BỒNG HẢI, on April 24, 1948. He inherited steadfast work ethics from his father, Trac Van Pham, and a tenacity to persevere against all odds from his mother, Hong Bui.

After being forcibly displaced from their home in north Vietnam, his parents settled in Saigon where Dong attended the prestigious Chu Van An high school. He graduated salutatorian in a class of over 1000 boys and scored among the top 1% in the nation on the tú tài hai exam. This achievement earned him a coveted spot to attend college in the U.S.A. He went on to study Chemical Engineering at A&I Kingsville, where he met Viki. Shortly after graduating, Dong began a distinguished engineering career serving as an owner and President of BHP Engineering & Construction for 41 years.

Dong and Viki married in 1972, and generously opened their one-bedroom apartment to ten family members who fled Saigon as refugees prior to the collapse of their motherland. This included his parents, six younger siblings, a cousin, and two children from his eldest brother. Together, they worked to support their family and eventually expanded it to include three beautiful daughters-Angela, Monika, and Erika. Dong was a devoted husband and fun-loving father, balancing the demands of project deadlines with little league softball practices, high school basketball games, and decades of dance recitals. For Dong, whether at the office or at home, a problem presented him the opportunity to flex his most powerful muscle-his brain. He loved the challenge of a new project and derived great pleasure in mastering something new, including restoring antique cars, building houses, creating a mini-citrus orchard on his property, improving on his favorite recipes, and finding the perfect bowl of phở. He thrived on solving complex engineering dilemmas while overseeing the successful operation of an engineering firm, and raising three rambunctious girls.

Dong is survived by his wife of 51 years, Viki; his children, Angela (and wife Jenell, aka the fourth daughter), Monika (and partner, Matt), and Erika (and longtime family friend Jerrod). His seven siblings Du Phạm, Bach Yen Nguyen, Thuat Phạm, My Hanh Nguyen, Minh Trung Phạm, Ngoc Diep Ly, Kim Chi Phạm, and over 30 nieces and nephews. He is preceded in death by his parents, nephew Minh Phạm, and cousin Hien Phạm.

A Memorial Service for Dong will be held at Memorial Oaks Funeral Home and Cemetery with visitation and storytelling on July 11, 2024 at 6:00 PM, and funeral services on Friday July 12, 2024 at 9:00 AM. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made in Dong’s memory to Sunflower Mission, a charity that provides education opportunities for children in rural Vietnam.

Dong’s legacy of generosity, inquisitiveness, and dedication to family and community will be remembered and cherished by all who had the privilege of knowing him. He moved through the world with a fearless entrepreneurial spirit and a resourcefulness that will remain unparalleled. Those fortunate enough to know Dong understood he was a living embodiment of the words he encouraged others to believe, “In dreams and in life, nothing is impossible.”


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July 11, 2024
In 2016 when I was freshly out of school and searching for that start in my career, Mr. Dong and his daughter Angela Pham were the first to give me that platform of lessons, career boost and a positive hope.

After moving to Corpus Christi for two years, not only did Mr. Dong helped me understand the world of engineering through his words but also looked after myself as he knew it was my first time living by myself away from my family.

I am forever grateful for his belief in me, his positive attitude in life, and helping me start my career. In Hinduism we call a mentor "Guru" who shows direction and leads everyone from darkness to light. Mr. Dong was that person, who led individuals towards light with his caring personality, words, and knowledge.

Sending my deepest sympathy and caring wishes to your family.
Akshar Patel
July 11, 2024
I am very fortunate to have spent time with the Pham's on many occasions, and Mr. Pham always had such a charitable spirit and made family friends feel extremely welcomed. Whether it was a crate full of homegrown citrus, a transport remedy, or believing you didn't need that fork the waiter surreptitiously placed next to only your plate of noodles, Mr. Pham graciously supported everyone around him. I will always hold dear memories of finding 'real' soul food and exploring Graceland with him and his family, and hope peace surrounds you all during this time of incredible loss.
Lauren Ritchie
July 8, 2024
Dong was a man of the utmost integrity with a passion for doing the right thing and hard work. Having worked with Dong off and on since 2009 in EG, Nigeria, and Ghana Dong was ALWAYS a pleasure to work with, seeking the best out of people and focused on delivering the best of every project. Even when times were difficult, Dong kept a positive and driving attitude that we all fed off of. What I learned most from Dong is that you give your people the responsibility to deliver and help them remove the roadblocks while always having their backs when the situations got tough. I will truly miss Dong. His smile, wit, and work ethic were catchy and for that I will always believe my life is better because I knew the man Dong Pham.
Rick Mitchell
July 6, 2024
My uncle Chu Dong was a progressive man, innovative, creative, and an out-of-the box thinker… a pioneer in our family. When I think of Chu Dong, I see how wonderfully made he was, a creative work in the image of a creative God. After leaving his native land and coming to the U.S. to study in the challenging field of engineering, he was instrumental in making sure the rest of his family- parents, sisters, brothers, nieces, and nephews had the best opportunity to succeed in the U.S. as well. He settled us in Houston, providing a home for all of us- 8+ immigrants, set up Ong and Ba with a way to make a living and take care of the family through “Ong’s Store.” Chu Dong and Aunt Viki taught us how to speak English and registered us for school, which was the beginning of our education and even our livelihood here in the U.S. He and Aunt Viki took us to buy clothes and school supplies for school every year. It was such an exciting time we looked forward to.
My childhood memories and most of the first experiences included Chu Dong…. riding go carts along the beach, fishing, camping, having pets (he had dogs), swimming at his house, riding the boat, horseback riding, and many other adventures. He loved to live life, have fun, and tried to include as many of his loved ones as possible. We couldn’t wait to go to Chu Dong’s house in the summer. He had such a positive, adventurous spirit, and an infectious laugh.
He was also an entrepreneur and saw potential everywhere, especially in people. He wanted to give us the best opportunity to be the best version of ourselves.
His departure is such a devastating loss, but the mark he leaves behind will live on in all of us, certainly those he enabled to flourish after coming to the U.S. The footprint of his influence is great. He was always busy working towards something, and never was much for resting. But may he rest now in peace. We will carry on what he started with us.

“For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1‬:‭6‬ ‭
Uyen Cantrell
July 5, 2024
Recently, Erika sent me a photo from our childhood, when the Phams came to visit us in Southern California. We went to Disneyland, a rite of passage for any young visitor. The photo instantly brought me back to that moment in time. I was scared and refused to set foot on Splash Mountain: a “big kid” ride. Bac Dong reassured me that he would be right behind me the whole time, and he insisted he wouldn’t let anything happen to me. He stayed true to his word, and made me feel confident that I could conquer all of the big kid rides moving forward. He seemed to always know what to say, and how to make anyone feel supported and confident. I’m grateful to have known someone so generous, kind, and loving. My family and I hold so much respect and admiration for Bac Dong. He truly personified some of the Pham family’s most prominent values that I’m sure we see in all of our ambitious parents (his siblings) : integrity, perseverance, and determination, with a common goal of paving a path forward for future generations, and in turn, leaving an impressive and inspiring legacy.
Nichelle Nguyen
July 5, 2024
Sisters Mỹ Hạnh Nguyễn , and Bạch Yến Nguyễn .

(Cô Yến added a paragraph to complete cô Hạnh’s story )😘
Bạch Yến Nguyễn
July 4, 2024
My brother always challenge himself, he knew his abilities at the early age!! He had to take four exams: first one called Đệ Thất exam; this test was taken at the end of his fifth grade. He passed this exam and was accepted to the 6th grade at Võ Trường Toản one of the few best high schools in South VN. At the end of his ninth grade, he had to take an exam called bằng Trung Học , instead, he took this exam at the end of his 8th grade one year earlier than usual He passed with honor points he got to skipped grade night and transferred to Chu Văn An High School, up grade to be in ten grade (Ông Bà was extremely proud of the achievement). At the end of his eleventh grade, he had to take an exam called tú tài một exam, he passed this exam to be a senior in high school. Then at the end of his senior year, he took tú tài hai exam. This was a very important exam; those who failed this exam would go to the army with a low rank in the army; those who passed would get accepted to colleges in Vietnam; those who passed with a high score, plus passing an additional English proficiency exam called TOEFL would get to attend college in the US. He was one of those bright kids who got accepted to college in the US.
Bach Yen Nguyen

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What was Đồng's favorite Sports Team?
Houston Rockets, Houston Astros, and his daughter's little league championship team which he coached for three years, the Sailorettes.
What was Đồng's favorite TV show?
Gunsmoke but he loved Western films especially The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. He also stayed informed on current events, nationally and globally.
What was Đồng's favorite way to exercise?
Planting Trees, walking outdoors, and jumping up and down when the Rockets were on T.V.
What was Đồng's favorite Food or Dish?
Can't pick just one! Phở, Bun Bo Hue, Banh Mi, and Vietnamese Egg Rolls, but he also loved barbecue and had perfected smoked brisket and fajitas. 
What was Đồng's favorite Travel destination?
He visited his birth place in north Vietnam for the first time with his wife and daughters which stirred a desire to finally retire and travel. Dong dreamed of buying land and relocating to the temperate Pacific North West, a climate which replicated that of his homeland.
What was Đồng's favorite Sport?
He loved basketball, never missed a game! Baseball was a close second.
What was Đồng's favorite Quote or Saying?
His personal version of the golden rule:
"He who has the gold rules.”
What was Đồng's favorite Restaurant?
Pho Saigon
What was Đồng's favorite Music / Song?
House of the Rising Sun & songs by Elvis Presley
Fun fact about Đồng:
Upon arriving to the US for college, he had to make money to pay his tuition. To make ends meet, Dong had many jobs from teaching Vietnamese to the GI’s, picking watermelons, waiting tables, and driving a taxicab throughout college to support himself and send money back to Vietnam for his family.

Service


Please join us to pay a last tribute.

We will come together to remember Dong during the July 11, 2024 visitation. This will provide everyone the opportunity to share their colorful misadventures and fond memories of Dong.

While we mourn the loss of our dad, we also aim to cherish the moments shared and the light he brought into our lives. Your presence would mean a great deal to us during this time of remembrance and reflection.

Visitation & Services will take place at Memorial Oaks Cemetery & Funeral Home

Visitation: July 11, 2024 (Memorial Oaks)
13001 Katy Fwy, Houston, Texas, 77079
5:00PM - 6:00 PM Buddhist Ceremony (all welcome)
6:00PM - 8:00PM Remembrance & Sharing (guests welcome to share short stories and memories of their time with Dong)

 


Memorial Service: July 12, 2024 (Memorial Oaks)
13001 Katy Fwy, Houston, Texas, 77079
9:00AM - 10:00 AM Memorial Services
10:00AM - 11:00 AM Buddhist Ceremony (all welcome)
11:00 AM - 12:00 PM Graveside Services
12:00 PM - 1:30 PM Reception
At Memorial Oaks, those guests attending the Buddhist portions of the service will remain seated in the chairs on Thursday and Friday.  

 


Pagoda Ceremony: (all welcome)
Chua Linh Son SW
12222 Sea Shore Dr.
Houston, TX 77072
5:00 PM - 7:00 PM ….. Buddhist Prayer Ceremony (Lễ an tịnh ở chùa)
For the pagoda, everyone will need to remove their shoes and the prayer is done seated on the floor.  Dress code is the same as an American service, black or dark color clothing and men in jacket and dress pants.  Women can wear dark color dresses or pantsuits.  This includes 30 minutes of prayer and 30 minutes of vegetarian meal service for the guests.

Hotel Block Discount:
$99 per night Discount is available July 10th - July 13th.
Please book rooms by 7/8/24 to secure the discount.

To book, copy/paste the following in your browser (remove the "quotation mark at the beginning of the website).

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Hilton Garden Inn, Energy Corridor (5 mins away from Memorial Oaks) 

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Location
Memorial Oaks Funeral Home and Cemetery
13001 Katy Fwy, Houston, Texas, 77079
Date/time
Visitation: July 11, 2024
Begins at 5:00 PM 

Services: July 12, 2024
Begins at 9:00 AM

Celebration of Life:
July 19, 2024 6:00 PM Solomon Ortiz Center, Corpus Christi, TX

Please email debbie.pilsner@bhpeng.com if you are attending the Celebration of life on 7/19.  We are requesting no children at this event please. 
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$ 1,945
Raised by 9 people
In honor of Dong, we invite you to contribute to a cause that was near and dear to his heart, education.

Your generous donation will serve as a meaningful tribute, perpetuating the spirit of Dong by supporting schools and students in rural Vietnam.

Together, let us continue the legacy of generosity and opportunity that Dong embodied throughout his life.

To find out more about our selected non-profit click here:
https://www.sunflowermission.org/



Three Donation options are available:

1. Donate directly to non-profit by PayPal, Zelle, or credit card: https://www.sunflowermission.org/donate
    Please note "Dong Pham" when making the contribution.

2. No-service fee contributions that will be transferred to Sunflower Missions can be made via Zelle to angelaxpham@gmail.com

3. Click the donate button on this tribute page (incurs a 2% credit card fee).


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