David Barnes MBE

I had the absolute pleasure of working with David for 22 years at Strathallan. Initially he was a colleague who I had the greatest of respect for but as time progressed, our relationship developed into a very special friendship and one that I will treasure forever. David was a shining example of the Strathallan values. His respect, his kindness and his love were evident in his daily interactions with all in the #strathfamily. His support for young people, near and far, was an incredible gift and he often said that 'time is the most precious thing you can give anyone'. He certainly gave his time in abundance to Strathallan and for this we are forever indebted to Tessa, Molly, Emily and Rory for sharing David with the Strath community. Over the last few years I have met with David for our weekly Wednesday cup of tea and biscuit where we have really got to know each other and shared our passions about improving mental health, reminiscing about Strathallan life and generally just enjoying each other's company. His kindness, support and friendship have meant the world to me and I feel deeply honoured to call you a very close friend David. You definitely were #blueandgold through and through.

After arriving at Strathallan, beginning of 1981/82, David Barnes (DJB) was introduced to my wife, Jean, and they developed a terrific rapport immediately. He was my House Tutor of Ruthven House, my assistant, as together we coached Strathallan 1st.XV, also helped and guided me through rugby tours; Narbonne, Canada, South America and Round the World Rugby & Hockey tour. During this whole time DJB was my soul mate, a very good friend, colleague and someone that I could totally trust.
As I handed the baton over to DJB in 1991, I was absolutely sure that Ruthven would be in very good hands and his career mushroomed exponentially, with the Strath Kenya Project one of his excellent ideas, as well as his extraordinary contribution to children and young people in Perthshire. Although I moved to QVS, Dunblane in 1993, I have always kept in touch with DJB and, even more so during his last few years, which he lived to the full, despite his illness and always thought of others - a true gentleman to the end.

Mr Barnes was a great force in my life and I feel incredibly lucky that I ended up in his care for what were many great years as part of Ruthven House. His mentorship is ingrained into me to this day, his many phrases and mantras still quoted amongst friends, who shared that same admiration for him. I had always thought that our paths would cross again one day, I could thank him as an adult, and I’m sad that won’t happen.

Looking back at that time now, there is a realization that I was in the presence of someone who was a master of their craft. I remember fondly his office which was brimming with memorabilia and pictures of yesteryear pupils. It exuded warmth and as a 3rd form pupil, instantly made you feel like you were part of something, eased the homesickness and inspired you to muck in.

I can clearly picture Mr Barnes writing out the days itinerary every morning on the white board as you returned from breakfast, being in his presence when he would walk across the road to pick up a minuscule piece of litter he had somehow noticed, seemingly endlessly running laps around the playing fields, standing on big acre touchline with umbrella in hand.

Many great memories for me with Mr Barnes are on the rugby field, along with Mr Tod (also deputy housemaster during my time), they were a duo in my mind, and always great fun. When Mr Barnes asked me to captain the 1st XV I think I nearly cried, beaming with pride, not to be captain but because Mr Barnes had asked me to take the role.

Thank you Mr Barnes

David (or as myself and the other kids at Tessa’s called him, big David) was always such an influential, inspiring figure for me from such a young age. We used to go to Tessa’s after school and always loved to chat to David about our day. He was a teacher for myself and many others, not only through his job but through the way that he mentored those around him, he cared about everyone around him, guiding and supporting them to be their best selves.
David loved so deeply for those around him and always wanted to offer a helping hand, he is a prominent role model in my life. If everyone was to be as thoughtful as David I believe the world would be a better place and I am so grateful to have been guided by such a compassionate, benevolent teacher and friend.

There are certain people from your school years who leave a mark on you that lasts a lifetime, and Mr Barnes was undoubtedly one of those people for me.

I spent some of my most formative years in Ruthven House, with Mr Barnes as both my Housemaster and rugby coach. Looking back now, I realise just how much those years shaped the person I became. He taught us about discipline, resilience, confidence and above all, the importance of looking out for the people around you. We certainly weren’t perfect, but he had a remarkable ability to get us to pull our socks up and perform when it mattered, whether that was on the rugby pitch, in the classroom or later preparing us for life beyond school.

One memory, though, will always stay with me.

When I was 15, my father passed away suddenly the day after we finished the summer term at Ruthven. It was completely unexpected and turned our family’s world upside down overnight. At his funeral at RAF Innsworth in Gloucestershire, I played the pipes for my Dad. I remember looking up and seeing Mr Barnes standing there. He had driven all the way down from school simply to pay his respects and support me and my family.

I have never forgotten that.

To me, it summed up exactly who Mr Barnes was: deeply caring, driven by strong family values and someone who would go out of his way to support the people in his care when they needed him most. At 15, you probably don’t fully appreciate the significance of something like that. As an adult and a father myself, I certainly do.

Last year, some 25 years later, I returned to school with my seven-year-old son, who is rugby crazy. Mr Barnes walked him up from his house to the First XV pitch and stood on the touchline, clapping as Ollie repeatedly ran in tries underneath the posts, absolutely delighted to be playing on the pitch I had told him so much about.

It was a special moment and brought back an enormous number of memories. Mr Barnes was a huge part of those years and of what Ruthven & the school meant to me.

One in a million and someone my family will always remember with enormous gratitude and affection. Rest in peace, Sir.

David's kindness, warmth and strong presence made him a hugely valued and trustworthy colleague. Never did a conversation feel rushed, no matter how busy he was. He always gave his full attention to supporting pupils and colleagues, determined to see the best in everyone and to help them be the best they could be. I very much enjoyed working with David in the Geography department and learning from him in his pastoral capacity. He always spoke with such love and pride about his children and my thoughts are with them. He inspired so many and will be dearly missed.

David Barnes 1959-2026 - His Early Years

David John Barnes was born on 27th March 1959 in Morley, West Yorkshire. He was the second child of John and Christine Barnes who already had a daughter Alison. They would soon be joined by their brother Philip, who would become David’s great playmate and friend. Many happy hours were spent with Meccano, Scalextric, James Bond cars with ejector seats, Thunderbirds and Action Men, before they discovered cycling and spent their pocket money, or earnings from paper rounds, on all the latest enhancements for their bikes. They joined a local cycling club and with them toured all over northern England. Did this give David his taste for geography? Philip recalls highlights such as the Midnight run to Blackpool, a mere 80 miles away, on a summer Saturday night to see the sunrise, then cycling home; also the Sunday 5am 50 mile Time Trials up and down the A1 from Wetherby. They were super fit then!

It was while at Morley Grammar School that David’s love of rugby began. He went on to become captain of the 1st XV. This was during the heyday of such rugby greats as JPR Williams, and, keen to emulate them, David would give all his players 3 initials when he posted the team. He also joined the local Morley RUFC and played for them. Dad loved going to support him and marvelled at his “legs like tree trunks”.

It always puzzled his sister Alison, who was a studious girl, that David never seemed to have or do any homework. She later discovered that he did it on the bus to school, and that was why he always went upstairs. This did not stop him from becoming Head Boy in his final year, or gaining a place to study geography at Loughborough University, where he was able to continue with his love of sport. He also had the opportunity to spread his wings and greatly enjoyed spending summer vacations in the US as a BUNAC summer camp counsellor, where his love of the outdoors and working with young people was sealed.

On his return he took himself off to Europe, where he trained as a ski instructor, then headed up to Kingussie to work at an outdoor adventure centre. Here his love affair with Scotland began, and would lead him to apply for a job at Strathallan after completing his PGCE in 1982. As they say, the rest is history.

But of course, David could not have done any of this on his own. First of all, David had a wonderful role model in our father, John. John worked with dedication to provide for his family, often doing overtime, but he was still available to have fun. He would play games and watch films with us, build go-karts and bonfires, and play cricket in the street; other children on our estate would knock at the door and ask if Mr Barnes could play out. On our annual holiday to Robin Hood’s Bay, he would lead the fossil-hunting and build boats for us out of sand whilst regaling us with tales of smugglers. The Barnes men are a special breed; they are all excellent role models, good husbands and fathers, and always caring about other people.

As long as they lived, both our parents were unfailingly supportive. Whatever we chose to do they helped us, even if it was way beyond their experience. They were always there for us, taking an interest, keeping in touch, travelling to see us wherever we were, working hard so that we could enjoy things they had never had. Our grandparents too played a big part in our lives. Granny and Grandad would be with us for Sunday lunch and we shared all the special occasions together. We loved hearing their life stories and wartime memories, and enjoyed playing card and board games with them. Our versions of Monopoly and the like were all in dollars as they were generously sent to us for Christmas by our uncle, aunt and cousins in Canada. Like David’s wonderful wife and partner Tessa, our Mum made a home where we could grow securely, a safe haven we could always return to and know we were loved, a place we were proud to bring our friends to and just wanted to be.. Yet at the same time they were not afraid to give us wings to fly.

And thank you, Strathallan, for welcoming David, taking him to your heart, and letting him make his home and family with you. He never wanted to leave. With your unstinting support he continued to grow and flourish. He loved every one of you. When he rang us, he couldn’t wait to tell us about all the great pupils he was privileged to work with. And when he had his stroke, you did not cast him aside but helped him with his recovery. He spoke of how pupils would assist him when he couldn’t find words and chose to walk with him at his slowed pace. You all travelled with him on his long journey through cancer and allowed him to continue to contribute to the life of the school. It kept him going and meant the world to him. We will be for ever grateful to you all.

David has been a great friend to Forgandenny Primary School for many years. We remember his warmth and kindness whenever we were invited over to productions and events at Strathallan. He was always full of energy and enthusiasm, and welcomed us with open arms. He was an avid supporter of our work at school and in the local community, which we very much valued.

Our thoughts are with Tessa and family.

My journey at Strathallan began with David during my job interview. What could have been a nervous experience turned into a genuine connection when I mentioned my love for comedy movies, and he simply replied, "Me too."

Over the years, he has been a constant source of wisdom and inspiration. Above all, Mr. Barnes demonstrated time and again a rare, invaluable quality: no matter how urgent or chaotic a situation seemed, there was always a calm solution.

Thank you, David, for your steady guidance, your inspiration and friendship.

To the fourth form of 90/91, DJB was very special. He was the housemaster of the only ever composite year-group house formed to bridge the accommodation gap as they completed the construction of the new study blocks. Ninety or so 14/15yr old boys in the old Leburn block. Suddenly there was no bunking, no prefects, no senior boys, only Dave Barnes to guide us. I remember the first term being very violent, but he calmed us down, created a meritocracy that inspired us to work towards his rewards and in the end we were such a close year for the rest of our days. He was also the senior colts rugby coach so he was ever-present. Those were some of my best times in my 7 years at strath. We owe so much to DJB.
He is always in our hearts .

You will be sorely missed, DJB.

You were our Ruthven Housemaster from Third Form all the way through to Upper Sixth, from 1992 to 1997, and I owe you so much.

Thank you for not suspending me on the few occasions when you probably should have; to you and Tessa for looking after us all so well — including Tessa washing my teddy when it was covered in sick! — and for the faith you showed in me by asking me to be your Head of House in my final year.

You even trusted Donald M and me to look after the twins — something that, looking back, seems remarkably brave! I believe there may even be some photographic evidence somewhere.

More seriously, I will forever be grateful for the belief you showed in me and the support and guidance you gave me during those formative years. You were like a second father to me and had a huge influence on my early life — far more than you probably ever knew.

I feel incredibly fortunate to have had you as my Housemaster and to have known you.

My love and very best wishes are with Tessa, Molly, Rory, Emily and all the wider family.

Rest in peace, DJB. You will always be remembered with enormous affection. ❤️ xx

He made us believe it is possible to get out of slums and be a better person
Love your neighbour in kenya was born as result of his inspiration

Mr Barnes was far more than the title he held during my time at Strathallan. His guidance, character and genuine belief in his pupils left an impression on me that extended far beyond my years at school.

At Strathallan, the school’s central ethos is “Opportunities for All to Excel.” Mr Barnes had that rare ability to see potential in a young person before they had fully learned to see it in themselves, and then to encourage it, challenge it, and help turn that potential into character, purpose and self-belief that would remain long after their school days were over.

For me, that influence helped shape the man I would go on to become, serving my country and dedicating myself to the service of others. For the part he played in that journey at such a defining time in my life, I will always be deeply grateful.

Our final interaction was in 2014, when he wrote in my leavers’ book:

“Live long and prosper.”

I could never have known then that those would be his final words to me. They have stayed with me throughout the years, but today they carry a weight and meaning I could never have imagined at the time.

Thank you for the guidance, the belief, and the lasting influence you had on my life.

Some teachers are remembered for the lessons they taught in a classroom. Others are remembered for the person they helped you become.

You will always be remembered with the greatest respect, gratitude and admiration.

Dave was such a positive and reassuring presence at school. He had the grace, strength and kindness of someone you could always trust. He gave endless time to his pupils and, even after we had left, he was always there with advice, encouragement and references whenever they were needed.

My first memory of Dave was of him working on the set of one of the many school productions. I was five years old and, while I was very enthusiastically ‘helping’, I managed to put a staple through my own finger. Poor Dave!

For a long time, one of my favourite memories of Dave was his unmistakable fashion sense. He would rarely be seen without a colourful rugby shirt and shorts. It was completely, unapologetically Dave.

Dave was someone who made people feel safe, supported and valued. He will be remembered with enormous affection and gratitude, and I feel very lucky to have known him.

I spent six years at Strathallan and was always getting into trouble. When Mr Barnes offered me a place on the Kenya 2015 trip, there were students and teachers who doubted the decision, or were actively unhappy about it. Mr Barnes laughed this off and made it clear that he had faith in me.

He had the compassion to see people on a deeper level. He didn't judge us, because he could see that we were all fundamentally good, even when we couldn't see it ourselves. He saw this same goodness in everyone - child, teenager, adult - and so he treated everyone in the same way, with the same respect. Young people loved this.

The people of Kenya also loved this. Mr Barnes worked tirelessly to help them improve their lives. He gave them his time and energy. He gave them resources and opportunities. But perhaps the rarest thing he gave them was the gift of his perception that, deep down, they were just as rich as we were, no matter how poor they seemed to be on the outside.

I will not be able to attend his memorial service, as I am currently living in Dharamshala (where His Holiness the Dalai Lama lives). I have sponsored five monasteries and nunneries here to make prayers on the 23rd of August for David Barnes to have a good rebirth. But whatever one's religion or spirituality may be, I suspect he is going to a good place.

I am grateful that Mr Barnes was in my life for six years, and especially that I was able to go to Kenya with him. I hope we can all be inspired by his example, to become better, kinder people. I am also grateful that we were joined in Kenya by Molly, Emily, Rory and of course Kennedy. I am very sorry to the Barnes family for your losses.

A wonderful man, who went above and beyond. He was an amazing help to me and I was forever grateful. Kind and fair! Thank you DJB and RIP. Mariet

Joining Strathallan as a foreign scholar can be an overwhelming experience, but DJB made sure I felt at home from day one. He possessed that rare, wonderful gift of making a new country and culture feel less like a challenge and more like an invitation.

He never missed an opportunity to gently refine my English, nor did he ever pass up a chance to induct me into the finer points of British culture and Strathallan tradition. What made these moments so special was the way he delivered them—always wrapped in a sharp, mischievous wit, but anchored by an unmistakable sense of care. Every gentle correction was a sign that he believed in me, and every shared lesson was his way of saying, "You belong here."

His warmth, humor, and depth of character shine through so many of my fondest memories of him:
His Legendary Wit: I’ll never forget standing on the sidelines during a Saturday game, utterly confused, and asking him to explain the rules of rugby. He took a slow breath, looked at me with a grin, and simply asked, "How much time do you have?"
A Lesson in Servant Leadership: When he delivered our prefect training, it wasn't just a routine briefing—it was an absolute masterclass. He showed us that real leadership wasn't about status or authority, but about serving others, leading by example, and lifting up the school community.
A Natural in the Chapel: Whenever the chaplain was away, he seamlessly stepped up to preach. Watching him deliver a sermon like an absolute pro—with quiet authority, eloquence, and heart—was a testament to just how versatile and wise he truly was.

Mr Barnes was always an encouraging figure. I remember he would warmly acknowledge you as you passed each other campus, and knew when you sometimes needed a little chat. I came to Mr Barnes’ office at the tail end of upper sixth to chat through an idea I had about improving boarding life and he was always very supportive and actively listened to you when you spoke. Mr Barnes was the definition of a truly kind and caring person, and I will look back at our geography Blend blethers, sorry, “lessons”, happily. You will be missed

DJB had the gift, often attributed to royalty, of being able to make a genuine connection with anyone. My favourite memory concerns a staff training day at the start of term. DJB was tasked with MCing these days and he usually bounced in from a rugby session in shorts, his PowerPoints full of fun graphics and videos. On this occasion, after the Christmas holidays ( though DJB still likely in shorts), the Headman had enlivened a point with reference to his holiday reading : The History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire. DJB segued into the next session by referencing his holiday project: the box set of Gavin and Stacey. I like to think they had worked it out in advance-aspiration and relatability.
DJB was a great man.

DJB what can I say generous with your time & support to everyone from the two tours to Narbonne in '90 & '91 helping me get GCSE maths at the 3'rd attempt I'm now a chartered accountant so who'd have thought that eh!
The Scottish athletics squad sessions that you took me to on Sundays after I became the first Strathallian to win gold to letting me redesign the Athletics strips its nice to see them still in use!
I look back with fondness & also how life can just be so unfair at times

DJB was a fantastic, warm, inspirational and kind person! He always saw the best in people and nurtured every ounce of talent in them! I have very fond memories of David being a great rugby coach, teacher and mentor! From freezing snowy rugby sessions,
Long runs in the rain and weight sessions, to him being an avid photographer at all school events and his enthusiastic inquisitive chats in the dining hall- he never failed to ask how you were getting on! A person who genuinely cared for all his pupils! lovely cherished memories of a brilliant person! Rest in peace DJB

David was the kindest person, always so generous with his time. He was a phenomenal support to our son throughout his time at Strath, supporting his contributions to the music department every bit as much as his efforts on the sports field. He was the heart and soul of the school, we are all devastated to hear of his passing and send our love to his family and the Strath community.

1st and 2nd picture: David running the Strathallan 5 mile Road Race (2011) where he never failed to give a hand, usually with his children.

Last 5 pictures: Iceland Geography Trip (March 2009) - long nights, short days, freezing temperatures, stormy weather, tired kids due their holiday, and yet David set the tone in a way that none of that was going to prevent learning, fun, adventure and positive relaxation. One hotelier of a remote accommodation had confirmed and then overlooked our booking of 30 people. The place was actually shut. We rocked up at the end of a taxing day, ready for meal and bed. After a few words with David, unfazed by the situation, dinner and comfy accommodation were provided for all...and we celebrated David's 50 birthday!

Other pictures:
Fond memories of another extremely well lead series of trips to Kenya (here 2013-2015), where David inspired Strathallan and Kenyan pupils and orphans, as well as UK and Kenyan staff and hosts. It was never a holiday, it was better than a holiday, as those involved learnt about selfless giving, igniting the love of life, appreciating the smallest of gifts that existence can provide, and finding energy in an intense and often challenged community life. With David, there was never a problem, but always solutions. 'No time for personal crisis' (his words) and thus a greater appreciation of the connections which we were all able to make and cherish, with memories to last a lifetime. David treated everyone as equal and had a genuine interest in each human being who crossed his path, whoever they were. The more troubled the soul, the more David invested into making the person feel better about himself/herself, offering kindness, support and striving to provide a better outlook, practical or spiritual. Someone with a frown always walked away with a smile after a chat with David. No judgement was made and promises were kept.

We were first introduced to David as one of the House Tutors for Freeland House. Over the last four years, he became an incredible source of support and a true mentor to my son.

His unwavering patience, gentle guidance, constant encouragement, and belief in him when others doubted made an immeasurable difference. His kindness and thoughtfulness have left an indelible mark that will stay with my son, and with us, always.

Thank you, David, for everything. You will be so very much missed.

David was my deputy housemaster, geography teacher and athletics coach continuously from 1985-89. He also coached me in rugby at various stages.

He had a tremendous effect on generations of pupils. I know that I would not have been able to study law at university and become a lawyer in the City of London, without him. I simply wouldn't have studied hard enough, and developed the right motivations and habits. It was his continuous encouragement and inspiration to work hard, to be the best that you can be, and to hold yourself to the highest standards, that made the difference.

There will be hundreds, if not thousands, of former pupils who will have benefitted in the same way, and whose life will have taken a better path because of him.

Some of the best memories I have with David are the Great North Run and Loch Rannoch Half-marathons, he took us to and ran together with us; the 1988 Round the World Tour which he co-led; and the way he kept my interest in geography from age 13-18, as an inspiring teacher.

In the 35+ years after leaving Strathallan, David always took an interest in my life and stayed in touch. This picture is from a couple of years back, when I visited the school.

In recent years I have returned to the School to take my children to the summer sports camp. Not only did David take the time each year to meet me for coffee, but he came to watch my son's rugby match too. This photo is from a couple of years ago during one of those trips.

The stoicism with which David approached his illness reflected the great strength of character we had all been inspired by and were in awe of.

David made an incredible difference, and will be so greatly missed. My thoughts and condolences to his family and all at Strathallan.

I worked with David over the last few years at Strathallan and the things that left a deep impression with me were the care he would go to in noticing the things that you were doing around the school and the effort that he would put in to thanking you for them. It really made a big difference to me as someone who is seldom confident in having done a good enough job. I keep the letter that he wrote to me on my departure from the school pinned up beside my desk, and go back to it when times get tough. Just before I left, he introduced me to his ideas about how it was possible to move from being a teacher to a schoolmaster who truly cares for and nurtures the children in his or her care; he was the latter, in a powerful way that I know has left a deep impact on many people.

This man has had such a positive impact on so many lives. He worked tirelessly to do what was best for the school, yet always had time for any pupil that requested it. He gave up many of his evenings or days off to take groups of pupils out for extra activities or dinners. My heart goes out to his family. This is a very difficult time for you all but find strength in how proud he must have made you. What a wonderful legacy he has left.

Rock solid; a “bon oeuf”; a man of integrity with a clear moral compass; kindly; patient; warm and caring. I was lucky enough to be a colleague and friend of Dave’s during my seven years at Strathallan and have many happy memories of time spent in his company, not least being a traverse of the Mamores Ridge on a warm summer’s day.

Strathallan made a wise choice when they took Dave on and he repaid the school with exemplary service. Influential, tolerant and good-humoured Dave commanded respect from pupils and colleagues alike.

When someone dies we have to seek solace wherever we can, mine is in knowing that Dave was a fine man; in the usage of a Lancastrian friend Dave was “a proper person”.

As parents, we entrust schools with our children's education, but we also hope they will be seen, valued and cared for as individuals. Mr Barnes looked after our son, Max (and later Sylvan), with a level of compassion, kindness and genuine care that is incredibly rare. He saw the person before the pupil. He knew when encouragement was needed, when to challenge, when to listen and when simply being there was enough.
What was very clear was just how much he cared. He made Max feel valued, believed in and capable of achieving more than he thought possible. As a parent, there is no greater comfort than knowing someone is looking after your child as if they truly mattered.
Mr Barnes taught integrity, humility, service and kindness and Max and Sylvan will carry those lessons for the rest of their lives, as will countless other Strathallians who had the privilege of knowing him.
For Max, Sylvan and our family, Mr Barnes was a mentor, a role model and a source of reassurance and unwavering support.
We will always be grateful that both our sons had Mr Barnes in their lives.
Our heartfelt condolences go to Mr Barnes' family and to everyone who had the privilege of knowing him. His legacy is not measured in years of service, but in generations of good people who are kinder, stronger and more compassionate because of his example.

I was lucky to have to have known David when he first started at Strath, in particular as the 1st XV coach with Brian Rance. Fast forward 20 or so years and my children also attended Strathallan. The first day of my oldest starting in Riley he popped in and said hello like it was yesterday that I was there and made my wife (who was not a Strathallian) feel so comfortable that this was the right place for them. He was an absolute legend and embodied so much of the School values. I can't to this day thank him enough for his guidance to me and my now adult children. Rest in Peace my good friend.

Such a gentleman, David made a huge impact on our girls lives when at Strathallan. Mr Barnes guidance and kindness will stay with them forever. Sending our sincere condolences

The slide that sticks with me from David’s training for the incoming prefects included the following Maya Angelou quote: “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

One evening in my U6th at Strathallan, a year in which I put a lot of pressure on myself, I was walking back to house from a Chemistry mock exam. It was late and I saw David’s office light was still on. I felt I should stop by to say hello and commiserate about working late. During our conversation, I burst into tears (one of only two occasions I remember this at school). I can’t remember what David said or what he did to comfort me there. But I do remember that I felt much stronger on leaving his office than on entering it.

The fact that I, someone ordinarily so emotionally repressed, was comfortable with and comforted by the above interaction speaks volumes to David’s character. And, while I have forgotten lots of things he’s said and done, I remember how he made me feel.

David was my pastoral line manager at Strath for the first nine years of my career in teaching. He was an inspirational figure who helped me understand what it meant to be an educator. I have thought of his wonderful example regularly throughout my career in teaching. I don’t think I’ve ever encountered a fellow professional who gave more to his pupils.
RIP DJB

I am the father of a former Strathallian. My son spent a couple of years at Strathallan, and back then, we travelled to Scotland to get him settled in and to see the school.
On that very first day, we were waiting to be received at the entrance of the Main Hall when Mr David Barnes walked in and greeted us warmly. My immediate impression was that I was standing before a true gentleman—kind and attentive.
I remember standing beside my wife and my son, who was sitting on a single armchair. Mr Barnes extended his hand to me, and then to my wife, as we made our formal introductions and exchanged a few words. Mr Barnes asked where we had travelled from, who the new pupil was, and what his name was.
My son, who remained comfortably seated, greeted him. At that moment, Mr Barnes took him by the hand and, without letting go, gently guided him to his feet, saying: "When you greet someone, you must stand up, shake their hand, and look them in the eyes."
That was Mr Barnes: a moulder of character from the very first encounter.
Thank you, Mr Barnes. Your legacy of guidance, honesty, fairness, and rectitude will remain with us forever.
May the light of the Highest guide your soul to its rightful place in the Eternal East.
Requiescat in pace.

DJ B was a father figure to me. During my time in Strathallan, we shared some great moments including going on the Perth Saturday morning Park Run and going to my first Scottish Premiership game, Hearts vs Rangers.
My greatest memory has to be having dinner with him in his house while he taught me what he called the Four Quadrants of life:
1.Spiritual
2.Emotional
3.Intellectual
4.Physically
-It is important to feed into these consistently to be a wholesome human being.

My favourite memories of David we're well before I even attended Strath. It was during my times at Forgandenny Primary School, I was good friends with his children, Rory and Emily. I would regularly head over to their house to play or hang out.

He was obviously a busy man with work and yet somehow he would always have a bbq set up. Maybe he knew I was coming? He knew I liked my food! Haha.

We all know he was an amazing teacher and worked incredibly hard 24/7; but what stood out to me the most though was his accomplishments as a great father and friend to the people around him. I will always remember him for that.

I will sorely miss the man and my thoughts go out to his family. ❤️

A superb teacher and a genuine example to any one who set foot in Strath, regardless of house, sport or subject. DJB was everywhere. He was a great rugby coach, though I have an abiding memory of raking his shins and foot accidently while he was holding a tackle pad...'"oooft' was all he said and we kept going...RIP DJB and sincere best wishes to his family and the wider Strath community with this sad news.

DJB was an amazing role model who lead by example. A real professional who cared deeply about his role and all the pupils, not to mention the Strath Kenya charity he supported.
I'm very pleased that I was able to reconnect with Mr & Mrs Barnes and spend time with them in these last couple of years.
My thoughts are with Mrs B and her family, we hope everyone's coping as well as they can.
David Moncur, Strath 90 - 96

Very sad to hear of DJB’s passing. My thoughts and heartfelt condolences are with his family. DJB was a brilliant man, a motivator that guided and supported many young people to become the best versions of themselves. Always quick to read the room and provide encouragement and guidance at the right time. I throughly enjoyed being in his Geography lessons he made it fun, stimulating and very interesting. He was by far my favourite person/teacher at Strath by a country mile. He was invested in me, like he was with anyone that showed a modicum of ambition, no matter which house you came from or your background. His judgement criteria was based upon effort, ambition and of course having fun in the process. He taught me an important life lesson when on the playing fields that has stayed with me all my life. Thank you for being an outstanding person and role model.

My deepest condolences to David's family and to everyone who knew him.

I was in Ruthven House from 1993 to 1998, fortunate enough to have Mr Barnes as my housemaster for those years.

Honesty. Courage. Trust. Hope. Discipline. Gratitude.

These are some of the virtues that come to mind instantly when I think of DJB.

I remember the house meetings, which he'd close with a prayer — often more thought-provoking than we probably let on at the time. I remember him turning the speakers up in his office to blare out "Perfect Day" for Children in Need. I remember the quiet chats where he tried to talk me out of being so hard on myself. I remember his generosity in organising things for us — the summer BBQs especially. And I remember one house meeting where he told us to show gratitude to our parents during the holidays — a novel idea to me at the time, one that genuinely changed how I saw things, and one I've carried ever since.

He'd walk the corridors of Ruthven House jangling his keys — his way of letting you know he was about, and that you'd best not be caught up to mischief.

He led by example, and tried to steer a house full of teenage boys toward those same values. It was no easy task, and a lesser man might have given up — especially on someone like me, who was convinced the world was against him and that he knew better than anyone.

But something stuck. When I left school, and later, when I looked hard at what I actually valued — honesty, courage, trust, hope, discipline, gratitude — I traced most of it back to him.

Those values have carried me through eighteen years running a business, through some genuinely difficult periods of life, and toward being a better husband and father.

Which makes me wonder how he managed to look after all of us — a house full of teenage boys — while also being a new father himself. If he did that without any strain on his own family, I'd be amazed. So my gratitude goes to his family too, for sharing his time with us the way they did. I wouldn't be who I am without those years in Ruthven, under his care.

There are people in this world who make you want to be the best version of yourself. He was one of them to me.

Very sad news to hear on a Tuesday morning. A consistent source of reason, kindness and moral compass, every school should have a DJB. So many memories of the great man.. rugby tours far and wide, Glenahee, big acre, little acre, geography, too many to list. Rest in peace, safe in the knowledge you influenced so many hundreds of young people to be the best they can be.

I remember, when I played U16s rugby in Strath, this one particular match against Glenalmond. At some point of the match, I remember how I mustered up what little strength I could after a scrum and made the effort to make a tackle. That's not really what matters, though. What matters is that, at that moment, it sort of felt like nobody saw the genuine effort I had put in. And I'd be right. All but for one man, standing on the sidelines, watching the match. That man was David Barnes.

After the match, I was far too critical of myself, aware of my mistakes yet not recognizing what I had done during the match. And in spite of that, Mr. Barnes came up to me first thing and commended me on my effort and achievements during the match. He never stopped believing in me when I, myself, didn't even do so.

And it is with these demoralizing news that I looked back and realized just how big of an impact he had on my life despite our limited interactions. I have treaded a long path, turned into a person I'd have admired at that point in time, and it is all thanks to how Mr. Barnes kickstarted my journey of acquiring self-confidence all those years ago.

So even in the face of his passing I will gladly take the few interactions we had heading forward, with only gratefulness that we shared said interactions. My most heartfelt condolences to his family, I wish them peace.

When I was at Strath, after my grandfather passed just before my A-Level exams, DJB heard the news and walked all the way to Simpson house during prep. He knocked on my door and I let him in. After reading me (well), he said, "it's ok to put it in a box, and put it on the shelf, but don't forget to take the box down and look in it later".

This advice hit me very hard later in life, as I recognized the heart and selflessness that went into reaching out and giving a young person that advice in that moment. What a truly caring and brilliant man, loved by everyone.

I was recently feeling compelled to reach out to DJB to thank him for his kind act, but I never did. It goes without saying that I regret not doing so upon seeing this sad news.

My condolences and prayers to his family, friends and loved ones. Rest in peace, David.

We walked out of our first meeting with David Barnes, knowing Strathallan was our school... All schools should have a David Barnes.

I shall never forget David hosting me as Fettes 1st XV coach in the staff bar before a game. This was in the early 90s. He suggested the game had been put back 15 minutes and went out to deal with the issue. Needless to say the game kicked off on time with me still being hosted by a sidekick of David! I was played and hooked!

I remember a particular rainy day, sitting in Mr Barnes' geography class in one of the old Riley stable rooms. We must have been sitting a test, as we were all heads down and very quiet. The only sound was the rain thundering down and tap tap tap of Mr Barnes pacing the wooden floors, using his golf umbrella as a cane. He suddenly stopped and when we all looked up he was peering out the window up at the rain clouds, before contentedly sighing, 'Ahhh precipitation". He made us all laugh. Am sure we have all never forgotten the scientific name for rain. Such an inspirational teacher.

What a great man , he always had a bit of humour even when we were in trouble with him .DJB was always great fun in the class and of course on the pitch with his scrum training ! Good fun training with him and the lads in the gym and us lot being very jealous of his quads , you will be missed DJB , one of life’s good guys .

DJB was so good to us when we arrived at Strath. He was immensely helpful in getting me settled into boarding house life and mentored me through the start of my teaching and tutoring career. I will always remember bumping into him on the steps of the Crown Casino in Brisbane by chance one day. He was of course working on helping a slightly lost pupil get back to base during a school rugby tour to Australia. We laughed at the coincidence of bumping into each other about as far away from home as possible. Rest in peace good sir.

DJB embodied what Strathallan stood for. Pupil centred and pupil focused, where individuals have the chance to shine and grow. DJB had time for everyone and was a role model and mentor to so many. Opportunities from Kenya to Riley camp excelled through his dedication.

When I helmed my first production, ‘Macbeth’ in 2018, I was fairly anxious for it to go well. During rehearsals, usually on a weekend, I slowly became aware of an imposing shadow who slipped in quietly to the theatre, always sitting a few rows back out of my eye-line, watching with an intense gaze as I nervously looked over my shoulder wondering what they had seen and hadn’t they anything better to do! But I soon noted their presence brought a calm and focus throughout the cast that helped them to push through my often demanding direction. As they took their leave they walked up let the pupils know how impressed they were with their efforts, flashing a movie star smile, sprinkling their magic,, before quietly whispering to me, ‘you’re doing great! That was the repeated pattern for the next five years, David became a welcome and reassuring presence, who had a magical way of bringing the best out of the pupils and giving me the confidence to crack on whatever came down the line! Thank you DJB!

David was the very first teacher to welcome me to Strathallan on my first day of school in 1986. It was a day filled with excitement and nerves, but his calm and reassuring words immediately put my anxieties at ease. His confidence-building guidance supported my journey all the way through to U6th form. What a great privilege it was to be one of his students. With deepest condolences to his family. Rest in peace, DJB.

DJB, I’m completely gutted. You made a huge impact on me throughout my 8 years at Strathallan. Motivating, supportive, kind and generous are just some of the many words that I could use to describe you. You will be forever missed. Ann-Louise

David was my housemaster for a spell in the 90s. Like everyone else, I immediately took to him, and felt I could trust him. The man was so obviously kind, caring and compassionate. I was not a natural boarder, and the culture could sometimes get on top of me. The pastoral care I received from David made a huge difference to my Strathallan experience. A very reassuring presence. He exercised his duty to all of us with complete fairness and had the deep respect of us all. I can't imagine there is a person on this planet who would have a bad word to say about him. This was sad news. I wouldn't normally bother with something like this, but the fact that I felt compelled to share my thoughts and memories is a testament to his character, and his impact on my life.

My thoughts are with Tessa and the wider family. You should all be proud of his legacy.

I will fondly remember david as a professional, kind, caring man with a huge heart. Never to busy for a quick chat to who ever needed it. He will be sadly missed by everyone. My thoughts are with tessa and his family

What a mighty man DJB was during my schooldays. Phenomenal rugby coach I was lucky to play under, and top fun on the Narbonne tour. But it’s the smile I will remember more than anything: huge, beaming, reassuring, kind, infectious. Rest in Peace, sir!

Not many people know how much of an impact Mr Barnes made to my life. He was an extraordinary human and taught me many life skills. I remember he pulled me out of chapel for being to chatty and apologised after saying “I’ve got it wrong, you didn’t do anything wrong, Infact you even tried talking to me” since then he became a friend. Going over to his house and having cups of tea with Tessa and himself will always be my fondest memory. Every Wednesday a tea at Mr Barnes house with Tessa was my favourite. He changed so many lives including mine and I will forever be in debt of him. We are all saddened by his passing, but he will forever remain a special place in my heart. Mr Barnes you changed my life and I will forever be grateful. Thank you for all your incredible support and kindness. I will miss our conversations but I will remain grateful that I got to meet and cherish you. Thank you for everything!

A fine gentleman and a trusted friend and colleague. David always had time for everyone and gave of it generously. His kindness and quiet presence touched the lives of so many, and he will be missed greatly by all who were fortunate enough to know him.

His words, "Do the right thing," were more than just a saying, they were a way of life that defined the man so many knew and admired.

May the choirs of angels receive David, and may perpetual light shine upon him. Rest in eternal peace.

Really sorry to hear this. DJB was a huge part of my time at Strath - as he was for so many. All thoughts are with his family.

David, or as we knew him DJB, was an inspirational man that helped me whilst I was a pupil (1982-1990). He helped organise many half marathons that I attended, building a life long love of running in me. He was a true gentleman and a great school master. He gave my son, Calum, great support as a House Tutor in Freeland when he joined in Upper Sixth in August 2024. Calum joined the school needing support and nurture and DJB was one of many who gave him it. His passing leaves our community a poorer place but memories of him live on forever in the minds of those who met him.

You will be sorely missed, DJB. I owe you a lot and will forever be grateful for the belief you showed in me and the support in my younger years. Love and best wishes are with Tessa, Rory, Emily and the wider family. Rest in peace ❤️ xx