Carrie-Ann Hazel Wilder

October  9th, 1989 December  21st, 2024
Concord, NH
Carrie-Ann Hazel Wilder

Obituary

Carrie-Ann Hazel (Lawlor) Wilder was born in Connecticut on October 9, 1989. She resided there several years and participated in volleyball, horseriding, and color guard. She moved to Peterborough, NH and graduated from ConVal High School in 2008.

As a child, she was diagnosed with a genetic form of Emery–Dreifuss muscular dystrophy. Despite her diagnosis, she persevered in her 20’s. She traveled, took acting classes, and resided in Los Angeles and New York. She held jobs in hospitality and medical billing. She also took college courses at UNH in Hospitality Management.

Carrie-Ann/Hazel stopped working once her disability progressed to the point where she could no longer walk and she was using an electric wheelchair. In her final year, she had several surgeries to prolong her life as long as possible. Unfortunately, a medical event occured and there were no more efforts available to continue her life. On December 21, 2024 she left this world, but not our hearts. 

Whether you knew her as Carrie-Ann or Hazel, you knew she had a funny ferocity about her. A girl with a big heart, but also someone who wanted to fight the injustices of the medical system for people with disabilities. She told looooong stories about her life experiences. She always gave you the best skincare advice, and she dreamed of having a podcast to talk to anyone about the oddities of life. Carrie-Ann/Hazel loved YouTube, true crime stories, crystals, reading, fuzzy socks, the stars, a dark room, and a lit candle.

She was a brave, astute, creative, and caring young lady who has left a permanent mark on this world. Her message to those who work in the medical field would be to take the time to listen your patients, and she means really LISTEN. Build connections with them to understand their medical experiences in the challenging healthcare system you work in. And for those currently battling a fight with the healthcare system- look for the helpers. There are nurses, social workers, case managers, PT/OT, LNA’s, and PCSP’s out there who will do anything in their power to ensure you are cared for and treated with respect. Keep asking for help until you find the right people on your side. She will be deeply missed by those who cared about her.

In her honor, considering donating to Womenade of Concord - PO Box 685 Concord, NH 03302. Womenade of Concord is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization with the mission of providing immediate, short-term financial assistance up to $500 to local individuals and families in need. 100% of donations received go directly to someone in the Concord area community. Carrie-Ann/Hazel was a beneficiary of this organization during a time of need. Around the time of her passing, she was planning on writing Womenade a thank you note for previously awarding her financial assistance.

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January 1, 2025
Dearest Carrie-Ann,

My heart went out to you before I even met you. The agency said there was a client who had muscular dystrophy, which meant physical difficulties, along with, an “expiration date” much sooner than the rest of us. When I was told that you had no support – no family members nor friends close by. I asked to have you as a client. My prayer was that God would help me to enrich your life as much as possible.

During our initial times together, I had quite a learning curve regarding your care, but we also talked a lot, questioning each other and trying to see whether I was going to “fit in.” You told me later that you had me pegged by the first week – like you could read my soul. I know that professionalism says not to become emotionally involved with the client, but I wasn’t having that. It would only get in the way of fulfilling your life like I wanted. Early on, we began to connect with each other in a variety of ways, from the trivial such as our birthdays, mine being 9/10, and yours 10/9 to how we were alike in some ways, and with your insights, I learned things about myself that I had never realized before.

I worked really hard to get your apartment organized and cleaned up, so you could have easier wheelchair access to your rooms. You were always so appreciative, and we soon grew to become true friends. I always wanted you to feel and to know that you were loved as a person, and were not just a “client.” I always liked to surprise you with special things. Like when I would bring in the little apple pies which you loved, or on your birthday, I brought in a big cupcake with a single candle for you to blow out! And when it was time for me to leave each day, we always hugged and sometimes I would pray for you if you were feeling down, or when you were anxious about a doctor’s visit the next day or something.

I know that I will always carry precious memories about you, like when we made our first trip out to your favorite place - Gibsons Book store! Or the time when we found out that we both had COVID together. I would mask up to come into the building, then take the mask off in your room, where I was able to continue to help out during that week. And then when we went out during the Concord Market Days, you were talking with so many people, and were so thoroughly enjoying yourself. Also, during Market Days, we went out one evening on a real “date” together, to hear a Queen Tribute Band play, something we both loved.

In my 6-plus months with you, you did begin to mention some slight declines you were experiencing, but I was sure that your expiration date was still off into the future. I tried texting you several times about spending Christmas Day 2024 with you as I knew you would likely be alone. You always had me use oxi-clean in your laundry and I couldn’t wait to share with you how I tried using it to clean some stained areas in my carpet, but that I now have whitish areas in my rug where I over-did it! I knew you would laugh at that.

But after numerous unanswered texts, I finally went to your building, got in, and knocked on your door . . . I was told when I was leaving that something had happened to you. I went straight home and looked you up on line, only to experience the raw shock of seeing your obituary – that you had left already. It was too soon, and I was beyond sad and terribly grieved. I miss you so . . . and never had the chance to hold your hand, or to hug you, or to say good-bye. I know I will be reminded of you whenever I see an IV bag on a pole, or see some kind of “true-crime”, or the Kelsey Grammer show, “Frasier” either of which was almost constantly playing on your big TV ! Or if I ever see a little green stuffed dragon, or a sunflower – your favorite. . . Carrie-Ann, you are still loved and missed, and your memory is safe in the hearts of the many you touched throughout your life, to include my own. I can only hope that your life was enriched as much as mine through our friendship. Good bye precious friend . . .
Tom Graham
December 31, 2024
I had the honor to have Hazel in my master acting class in New York a few years ago, She was super talented. Her disability did not stop her from sharing her gift with all of us. She was an inspiration to everyone who was there. I will never forgot the days we all spent together. Hazel is unforgettable! We all hug and miss you. ❤️
Bernard Hiller
December 30, 2024
Dear Hazel,

We spent countless hours on the phone together, and oh, how I wish I’d been lucky enough to meet you in person. You were my biggest cheerleader, always encouraging me and lifting me up. I’m so grateful for the way you helped me feel confident and proud of myself—especially as an actor. Your opinion mattered so much to me because I knew it came from one of the most talented people I’ve ever met.

When I first joined a class with you, I remember thinking you were years ahead of me. But you weren’t, you were just that good. Not only as an actor, but as a writer and storyteller. You were smart, sharp, endlessly creative, and wickedly witty. You had this rare ability to make almost anything better: funnier, more intriguing, more compelling.

But like many creative geniuses, you were also a chaotic perfectionist. And life knocked you down time and time again. Just as your health would improve and you’d glimpse a light at the end of the tunnel, you’d throw yourself into new ideas—only to be pushed back down, often landing worse off than before.

My heart aches knowing your ideas will never fully come to life in the way only you could have brought them to the world. You had so many stories left to tell. You deserved so much more in this lifetime. And I miss you so much.

I may not know where life will take me, but I promise this: in every story I tell, every role I play, before I hear “action” or step onto the stage, I’ll look up and think of you.

I will never forget you, Hazel. Thank you for everything. I love you.

Love,
Elisah
Elisah Geertman
December 29, 2024
Carrie Ann went through more than anyone could imagine in her lifetime. I met her toward the end of high school and we became close friends throughout my college experience. We made a lot of fun college memories together. She brought a sense of spontaneous joy wherever she went. Despite all she encountered in her life she had a fierce zest for life which I witnessed, especially throughout our college Experience. She was very inspiring to me personally- being reserved and trying to have a normal college experience after processing my cancer battle. We had so many fun memories together in college. She was a free spirit. She really helped me let loose and enjoy life during my college years. She made a positive impact on my life and brought so much joy. She was the strongest, most resilient person I knew. She deserved much more from this world than she was given. I hope she knew how loved she was and I will always remember the great memories we made ❤️ Rest in peace beautiful soul you will be greatly missed
Christyanna U
December 29, 2024
Forever shaped by all my memories with you. Grateful for all the time we had together. Our paths changed over the years, but we started the path arm in arm.

I hope my daughter finds a friendship like ours one day.
Stephanie H
December 21, 2024
Rest in peace beautiful soul!
Your passing is making a lot of hearts crying, extremely sad and tearful.
God called your name so softly.
That only you could hear.
And no one heard the footsteps of angels drawing near.
The golden gates stood open.
God saw you needed rest.
His garden must be beautiful.
He only takes the best. 💔
Alina Mihaela
December 21, 2024
I don’t think there is a way to put into words the sadness I feel about your passing. You taught me so many valuable things about the injustice people face in the healthcare system. I saw time and time again how people with disabilities are treated and unheard. I heard you girl. And I will forever be changed from lessons you taught me. I promise to keep fighting the system for you and in your honor. May you rest peacefully now.
Mary D
December 21, 2024
You will be so greatly missed! I will never forget you, your tenacity and love of crystals, essential oils and true crime drama ! Your fight is over… far too soon…. You taught me so much as a nurse, and I will never forget you and will continue to fight for you! 🌻 YOU WERE LOVED! More than you ever knew!
Brigette
December 21, 2024
Your struggles are over. May you now have peace. <3
Matt D
December 21, 2024
Dear Carrie Ann. You inspired many with your ferocious fortitude, well of kindness and commitment to justice. You will be missed.
Neal Lakdawala

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